What reaction from the school did you get when you told them you were going to h.ed.?

[fiveboysmum]

Hi, we are planning to take our de-registering letter to the school next Thursday (Children have a theatre trip on Wednesday so I (probably cruelly) want them to stay at school until then).

I do not know what sort of reaction I will get from the school. I am not expecting it to be good.

Oh also, one ds wants to stay at school (against my better judgement) can they refuse to have him given that I am in effect telling them that they have failed my children in a most miserable manner? Or should I find him another school , but this would be upheaval for him ( better the devil you know??)

Oh dear really not sure what to do for the best for every-one. Any advice would be appreciated.

I wouldn't say anything just hand in the deregistration letters for the boys who are coming out.
They will notice that there is one for the ds wanting to stay.
if they ask, just say he is choosing to stay for now at least.
and at them.
Don't give reasons other than this is you and your families choice.
Make sure you have read up on the legalities because there are schools who tell you that they need to get permission from the LA before they can dergister, that an EWO will come round and inspect your house and plans before it will be allowed etc All poppycock of course.

You never know it may not be too bad though-it wasn't for us at all;

The first school claimed they had never come across HE before -which i later found out was a lie as someone else from the local group had deregistered from the same school with the same staff in post.
They asked how the legalities and practicalities worked, i told them to look up Education Otherwise on the internet and find out.

The middle school said nothing except to say that dd1 had an exceptional talent for singing and I should get her lessons.

And the high school that ds went to, the head teacher rang me up, really interested and asked me if there was anything he could do to get me to change my mind, I said that his staff all needed training in teaching SEN children and he agreed and then he asked me the usual stuff about curriculum and exams etc and I told him that we were going to be following the children's interests he said "Oh for the pleasure of teaching a child what he wants to learn!" Then he offered that we could use the school as an exam centre when we needed to.

Our school never says anything. It is the parents legal right. they just write and confirm the re-regulation.

The school then informs the other teacher, if the child has not already done so.

No drama

My dd's teacher was also the deputy head.
I sat down and told her (after the session in which I'd just been helping out in her classroom) she thought it was a wonderful opportunity for my daughter and said it was the best thing for her.
My dd being exceptionally able, the teacher informed me that the school couldn't offer her what she needed!

The headmaster just sent me a letter letting me know they'd told the LA and wished me every success.

I don't think they take it too personally, there are so may children on their waiting lists for places.

You don't have to give a reason like JNS said it's :
"you and your families choice'

The headteacher asked us if we were sure, the secretary nearly cried as the girls are so lovely and wanted there but they just weren't learning- the eldest wants to be a paleantologist and the second wants to go into the family business, the other three are too young to know yet, but the way they were being held back they wouldn't have achieved their best. The school said they could go back in at any time if they changed their minds.
If it hadn't been the girls choice then I would have felt bad for removing them but I'm not going to leave them in school just because they are easy to look after and pleasant company
smile sweetly and remember you don't have to justify yourself or your decision.
Good luck

A bit suprised but nothing much. I think they are waiting for the S to hit the fan.