My Y9 son has struggled to attend school for the last 3 years due to anxiety and physical health issues, school suspected autism and on their first home visits (pre-covid) asked if he had a diagnosis. Previously we had issues with behaviour at home but with hindsight this would have been masking through primary school and then release of emotions when he got home. I had long suspected PDA though as he fits the criteria.
Long story short, school attempted and failed to arrange the autism assessment so I have arranged this privately. Report is awaited and being delayed by DS's father who has intervened and is now ignoring all parties involved but it can't proceed without his consent. School have now started suggesting that I will have to homeschool DS, they can't wait for the report, and I had a visit from the Attendance Officer yesterday who advised that the LA have enquired about DS's attendance and will be looking to prosecute. I'm being railroaded into taking him off the school roll, but if I do so his father will also object.
Am I right in thinking it's up to the headteacher to give LA permission for a parent is prosecuted? Or do the LA take over? I'm caught between a rock and a hard place. Ultimately I do think (this) school is not the best environment for DS's learning, but whatever I do my ex will object. Am now panicking about being fined and possibly having to pay solicitor's fees if I have to go to court.
Any advice would be gratefully received! Thanks