Struggling with homeschooling 8 year old ASD son

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Hi just looking for some advice to help me help my ASD son who turned 8 in March. We are NI so he is classed as P2, not sure what year equivalent that is in England etc.
He has no motivation whatsoever to do any school work. With enticement I can talk him into completing literacy based learning but numeracy he is having none of it!!
They started learning the lower times tables at beginning of Jan in school but since lockdown it just seems that anything he has learnt about numeracy has totally gone out the window!! It's like he has completely lost all confidence. Most days in a terrible meltdown and I'm close to breaking point! My husband is working full time from home, I am working 4 solid hours each morning from home, so have to leave schooling until afternoon. I also have a 6 year old.
Any recommendations or advice with helping the times tables to stick with him!? Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated 😊. Oh when is this going to end.......

Sorry forgot to add that he has a 1:1 teaching assistant in school for 3 hours each day. She tries to sit in the background so that his independence keeps increasing who was working so well..... I fear this is going to undo all the hard work 😪. The school are sending work but they are not giving me any different or additional resources than what the rest of his mainstream class are receiving

This is a long shot, but some children with ASD struggle with the idea of doing school work out of school. Their reasoning is that 'school work' should be completed in 'school'. This change is going to be incredibly challenging for someone with ASD (but you know that already!). What I would try is to make an area in your house into a school - set it up formally - even put up a sign. Get him engaged with this and involve him in setting up his 'school'. Create a timetable which works for you and your husband and put it up to so that your son knows when he is going to 'school'. You might find that establishing a routine/place of study really helps.

Re. the tables - take it slowly. 10 minutes every day is the way forward. Write them, sing them, lay them out physically with small objects, draw them, chant them - you'll find something that 'clicks' for him. If you don't mind screen time, there are loads of computer games which encourage timetables (Sumdog is one example).

Good luck!

Maths can be a game, could you perhaps try.board games with strategy.and "counting"' for both 8 year old.and six year old together. Labyrinth is still a favourite with my 18'year old! Backgammon, poker, chess. Marble runs, train sets, all encourage engineering skills if not actual maths. And then there is scaling up a simple picture into a larger version, say a face or symbol. Measuring the furniture, and scaling it down, cooking and.changing the quantities, or keeping them the same and learning about volume versus weight. Number biscuits, counting different types of things (algebra)

Disclaimer, I.have son with ASD, intellectual curious. And not v.mathematical. found some concepts difficult.to grasp, better with concrete maths. Achieved 5 at Gcsce although high grades in english.and history/science.