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Unschooling?

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magister1 · 05/05/2020 19:13

Came across the idea of unschooling recently: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unschooling

Sounds cool, but risky. Are any of you doing it? Does it work?

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Saracen · 05/05/2020 23:08

Yes, it works very well. Unschooling (as the Americans call it) aka "autonomous education" (as it is more commonly known here) has served my two well. They are now aged 20 and 13. We know a number of other families who do the same.

It isn't as risky as you think.

Imagine that you had always feared your children wouldn't eat if you didn't push food on them, and had always tried to insist that they eat at mealtimes as well as urging snacks on them at frequent intervals. So they never had the opportunity to get properly hungry, and perhaps they regularly pushed food away. Being tired of having food pushed on them all the time, they might never actively seek food out. They might even say they hated food. This might make you even more anxious, convinced that left to their own devices they would starve.

Perhaps a more chilled friend would try to persuade you to allow your children to decide for themselves when they were hungry. You might tentatively try it, refraining from pushing food upon them for as long as two or three hours. But if your children showed no interest in food within that time you would conclude that the experiment was a failure and you must make them eat.

Learning is like food. Children have a natural hunger for it. That's easy to observe in very small children as they explore and ask a million questions. When children get a bit older, nearly all parents begin requiring kids to learn what we want them to learn when and how we want them to do it. They may well get fed up and say they hate it. But once we stop badgering them, their enthusiasm returns. Unfortunately the school holidays aren't usually long enough to see this happen, so most parents don't believe that it will happen.

magister1 · 06/05/2020 08:31

Wow that's a great analogy!

I guess I hadn't really thought of it in those terms before. Learning is like food :) Very true.

I can't really see state schools doing this though in the current educational environment. I suppose your children were home schooled?

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NekoShiro · 06/05/2020 08:44

Schools were designed to pump out factory workers in the victoria era and we've just carried on since then, there's multiple other methods of you look around, I've always liked the thought of unschooling, there's another one that I can't think of the name right now but personally I think so long as kids end up with the gcse certificates that are standard such as English, science, maths through an outside testing body then the rest of learning should be whatever they have passion for

Fullyhuman · 06/05/2020 08:53

We do this.
I don’t think schools could do it but depending on your own kids’ school’s expectations this period could be a great time to try it. Follow their interests, eg if they like Numberblocks show them Numberjacks, offer to play games with dice/counting in, if they like wordplay look up puns/jokes with them; if they like gaming play with them, they will be learning even if it isn’t mappable to the national curriculum. The challenging times for us are when they’ve wanted to lounge around doing nowt - or what we perceive as nowt, iPads and so on. But we keep offering alternatives and eventually they come to have fun offline. We are honest with them about our perceptions of the limitations of autonomous education for children in the UK, that is, we believe they’ll need to get GCSEs and so work towards those starts gently at around 11, as in, we start to push literacy, numeracy, scientific method etc. So we are not fully unschoolers, but the food analogy above is spot on ime.

Fullyhuman · 06/05/2020 08:55

(There is plenty of learning and fun to be had on screens, I didn’t mean to imply that parents should be trying to tempt their kids off screens all the time. It’s a balance, isn’t it: you want them to move their bodies and play and learn in a variety of ways that they find fun)

DMS8 · 07/09/2021 15:37

Hi all.

We are also looking into the idea of unschooling. Our son is just starting year 5, and I'd like to use the remaining time he has at priary school to research the unschooling options, and local people also doing it.

We are based in London, N8. I'd love to know if there is anyone else in our area looking at or doing this?

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