Visit from headteacher?

[littlebear1978]

Hi there, I've deregistered my son last week and began the journey of home ed! So happy as it's taken a lot of pressure off us all, no more phone calls from the school every day, no more meetings, no more worrying what has happened today. My ds (7) said thank you mom for taking me out of that school. He has had his first visit with the paediatrician and we've filled in questionnaires and sent back.
Had a call today from the school senco and headteacher asking if I was okay with them putting on their records that they had given ds behavioural and emotional support. As I want to keep on the right side of them as they are still going forward with the ehcp plan I said yes I realise as far as funding allowed you did get advice but it just wasn't the right environment for him.
The head said they are responsible for him ten days after so she would like to come out and visit us at home for his well being. Obv I have no problem and nothing to hide so I agreed but is this right?
I've emailed the home ed dept at my council to ask for more advice. Thought someone here would know

Assuming you have deregistered from a mainstream school in England or Wales then no they are not right.
They are legally obliged to remove your child from their register from the date said on your letter and you become responsible for their education immediately.
The school then must inform the LEA. I believe they have 10 days in which to do this which if I am being generous I would suggest this is the why school might be confused.
The less generous part of me wonders if the school don't want to tell LEA for some reason and are looking to persuade you back. Whatever, they are wrong they have no right or need to visit.

Please ignore the shocking lack of punctuation.
I would strongly advise cancelling visit, unless you are open to discussing a return to school, the headteacher is massively overstepping the law here.

I would also recommend joining some national and local home education groups on Facebook (if you are not a FB user set yourself up a n account just for HE). They will able to help you be sure of your legal position and find out more about your local LEA. Sadly not all councils are always good at sticking to the law and guidelines. Not looking to scare you, there are good councils but picture is mixed so do do your own research and get advice from home educators too.

I suspect the head has seen some of her funding disappear and wants to dissuade you from home educating.

Thank you for all your advice. Yes, sorry it's a mainstream school in England. I didn't think it sounded right and have joined groups on Facebook. I've also emailed the home education team from my council to ask for advice. I've already sent them a copy of my de-registration letter. The school didn't do much for him when he was there, the signs were there but they kept telling me nothing was of concern, they didn't understand when he had a meltdown, didn't recognise his triggers or talk to him calmly. I will phone the school on Monday and kindly decline the offer of their visit

Yes, PPs are right. From the moment the school received your deregistration letter, they have no further responsibility for your son. Their only responsibility is to remove his name from the roll and inform the LA promptly - ASAP, but in any event no later than ten days after receiving your letter.

I can't imagine anything positive which could come from allowing the headteacher to visit. Perhaps she will try to put pressure on you to keep your son at her school, or suck up to you in hopes that you won't complain about the school's lack of support to the LA. I suppose it's just possible that she thinks she's in a position to offer you useful advice on how to home educate, but that idea is fairly laughable. It's likely that you already know considerably more about HE than she does, and if you need advice then the home ed forums are the place to get it. So at best the meeting would be a waste of time, and at worst she may try to persuade you to change your mind. This could be particularly unpleasant if it's done in front of your son. Some kids, especially those who have hated school, get very upset at hearing someone in a position of authority saying that HE will be a disaster, or that the child might be sent back to school or similar nonsense.

Yes I agree, I think she doesn't have a clue to be honest and I don't want to confuse my son inviting her into our home if she doesn't have to be there. She said she still has his pencil case so is using that as an excuse to pop in trying to be helpful. When I said I'd wrote my education philosophy and joined home ed groups and got books and topics planned the senco seemed quite surprised. I don't think they thought I knew what I was doing. 😂

They're wrong what they mean is if the child is excluded they are responsible for him and his learning 6 days after the day of exclusion.

They don't need a follow up if you've removed him. It's nothing to do with them and they have to remove him by law from the school register.