DS1 Home ed, DS2 at school

[TheDistantSky]

Hi,
Just wondering what experiences MNs have had of mixed schooling.

DS1 has ASD and will be taught at home from Monday. DS2 is going to carry on in school (Year 5) but I'm worried that he's going to feel left out or like he's on his own. Any one had a similar experience or any words of wisdom?

We started off home educating DS in January, whilst DD was still in secondary but she joined us later on, coming out of school at Easter. Probably not what you want to hear, but it was kind of on the cards that she would do that. She has HFA and found the huge secondary school overwhelming and very stressful.

There is a Facebook group called Home Ed/School Families that has hundreds of members all in that position. I had one in school and one out for 6 years so definitely a doable situation.
The mistake many make in my opinion is being scared to make home ed too 'fun' for fear of upsetting/leaving out the school going one. This to me is unfair to the home educated child. Treating them equally doesn't mean treating them the same, in this case it is giving them the education that is right for them. Presumably your school going one enjoys school and thrives there and doesn't want to leave, if so feel no guilt and enjoy home ed.
Make sure to make time for just you and the school going one to share things; with mine we'd have the occasional big day out just us enjoying a shared interest but it was more we had tv programmes we'd watch but others didn't like so they'd go to bed and sitting down for a cup of tea and a chat when they got in (home ed one was playing/doing own thing) as they got settled into the routine they didn't always want to as preferred Xbox to unwind or going out with mates or I would be out but it was still habit to do it often and have us the opportunity to chat about all the small things.

my daughter is home educated and does online learning, and ds2 is at school. (ds1 is at college)
Ds2 was a bit weird about it at first but is fine because he has decided that he doesnt think he would like online school because he would miss his friends, but if it got to the stage where he seriously wanted to come out, and it wasnt anything we could fix, then I would take him out too.

I must admit that one of the reasons we chose an online school was because I didnt think it would be fair on the others if she didnt have set work, and I do think this gives us the best of both worlds