I have moved away from hell school and went to look at the local school building and...

[Jennylee]

a group of young children standing near the school gates around 8 at night we went just a while ago, started taking the piss out of my english accent and saying racist stuff to us about being chinese, polish among other things and taunting us as we walked back home me and ds, ...so that makes the possibility of sending him back to school in august so appealing. they were from tiny size to p7
i am half and ds is a quarter spanish. I know we will never get away from it but it does not inspire confidence, plus the school is enormous

Also am getting crap of my mum for only doing 20 to 40 minutes a day on formal workbooks stuff untill ds loses interest/gets annoyed. he is doing age 5-7 workbooks but he is 8, apparently I should get him caught up for august, can't see how that is going to happen, he has only just with my help began to write nicely and well formed but slow, and not joined up like those at school, plus we have hit a brick wall at Maths in a key stage 1 age 5-6 book of maths and multiplication and I can't get ds to want to try maths although he learned his 3 times table by rote and knows the 2, 5 ,3 and 10 . so am terrified. anyway is okay if no on e comments this is just me panicking. oh at least I taught him to read.

anyone home edded for a while then child goes back to school and is okay?

i was very committed to it but we moved areas so the reason we home edded is partly erased, but not totally and I am getting the drum s beating for him to return to school from everyone

FWIW my DS was at least 8 before he know his tables. It sounds as though you're doing a good job, but getting a bit hung up about where he 'should' be. My DS is a bit slow; I took the advice from someone to chill out a bit and not fret, but to throw at him everything he shows interest in, so he plays lots of different sports and learns musical instruments easily, has just joined the army cadets and loves it (he's 13). His maths & english has come on in leaps & bounds now he's at secondary school.

It sounds as if you need support from the school; tell them your fears of him falling behind & ask them how they will help him.

Can't advise about the home ed thing, but will repeat, it sounds as if you're doing a great job, so stop worrying - he'll be fine.

Does he want to go to school and do you want him to?
I've been HEing since my son was 3 and he says he would never go to school,collese yes but not school.He is 12 and old enough to make that decision.Why is everyone on at you to put him in school?

jennylee, are you a member of education otherwise or their email 'chat' groups? you might find good support there.
my children aren't even 'school-age' so i can't offer any words of wisdom on he!
i think you're a fab mum for doing what you're doing.
don't let other people grind you down.

thanks I just posted the scottish home ed groups but i know all of them will say not to ever send him back to school. My fmaily saw it as temporary to get him out of previous bad situaion at school in temporary school untill we were moved house, but I know if he goes back there will be assessment s and labels as you can't just be behind, you have to have sn to get special help at school and go away in special groups and be assessed and stuff and my ds is ver self conscious of that and it makes him feel thick, he was okay in p1 aand 2 but we moved for p3 an dthe enw school destroyed his confidence and did not help. I would love him to go back if he could be happy and not too stressed and upset and maybe make some friends, an dif he could do the work and not get all wound up about it but he might be miles behind and I guess I am scared. my fmaily want me back at uni as I took a so called year out to do this for him adn do not have my honours bit of my degree

he does not want to go to school. i am getting hung up as if he goes back he will be behind , but actually he is so much better than in December when he left the school, he could nto read and had stopped being able to write. But he can hear now as his hearing went off with glue ear and just came back a few weeks ago, so maybe he would be fine, I will be back later to check any posts thank you all for posting, the school just gave me the fear

Right now maybe you should think about what the 2 of you want.
Do you want to continue teaching him?
Does he want to stay HE?
These things are decisions only you can make.I have chosen to continue with HE for both my DS12 and DD6 as I feel that it is better for them,you may feel that way or that you would prefer him back in school and you back at uni.It's your choice and you have to be comfortable with it

still undecided anyway, he may not go back if he does not want to, just wish my fmaily would see how home education is different a nd not for hours on end every day well not for me anyway,

would like to say, the HE support email lists are actually pretty supportive of people who aren't sure one way or the other - lots if us have children who are in school, out of school and back in school again, or some in and some out - and it's very easy to ignore the (very few) who are totally anti-school and aren't prepared to listen. Would suggest you try, particulalrly if you explain you're working towards going back to school (I'm doing the same with DD2 who would like to try secondary school).

Families do come round eventually.EO do an excellent book on HE that explains almost everything,also there are local groups to goto for support and general social activities.
They also have case study type research and that can be helpful to show family members

thanks shrinkingviolet, he is afraid that if he goes back he will be stuck there and it was hard to get consent to withdraw as the lea was obstructive, he does not want to go back adn jsut seeing the place made him say lets do learning and workbooks at bedtime lol, to show he was going to do his work at home.

singingmum, thanks for your advice, I have contacted the yahoo group linked to schoolhouse. I know it is up to me, and August is far away.