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Home Eds Going Back To School?

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daisys · 21/12/2006 21:24

We home educated our ds due to bullying at school. Then when dd was coming up to her last year in primary school she decided she wanted to be home ed. We didn't have a lot of luck finding others in our area, and dd was very lonely. We joined some home ed yahoo groups and found 2 families with girls near dd's age. One family we saw once a week, the other about once a month as they were always busy meeting other home eds. So we found out where this group had a meeting and went along, and dd was totally ignored by all the chidren, despite trying to talk to them.She was in tears. One person spoke to me. It was then dd decided she wanted to go to secondary school.
I know the 'socialisation' issue always comes up, and I argued until I was blue in the face that my chidren were free to see who they want when they want, rather than be forced to be with people all day at school, but for my dd it just didn't work.
I tried contact lists etc but we found it very cliquey, as when we went to one meet and were ignored.
I do feel guilty but we tried everything to find others, and now for dd to say she hates home ed, well,I feel guilty about that as well.
She has been at school for 3 months now, and says she hated home ed 'cos she was so lonely.
Anyone else's children gone back to school from being home ed?

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sorkycake · 21/12/2006 21:38

Oh Daisys, so sorry to hear this. Is she happier being back at school?
Did you have any luck with extra-curricular activities such as brownies, swimming lessons, dance classes that kind of thing?
Was she unable to keep in touch with any friends from school for playdates?
I haven't met up with the Yahoo'ers yet but plan on filling her options for outside stuff just in case we don't take to them either.
I'm pretty sure guilt comes from simply being a parent full stop. Sometimes it doesn't seem to matter what we do, it's never the right move is it? At least you gave it a shot, sorry I can't offer any more.

Saturn74 · 22/12/2006 14:20

A few HE children we know went to school at the start of Y7.
It is a shame that you felt unwelcome at the group and on a meet up. I don't find socialising with strangers easy, and HE has been a baptism of fire for me - turning up at events with my two children and having to be outgoing and chatty to people I don't know. I think it has probably done me the world of good, but at the time I was terrified!
We tend to dip in and out of groups, and organise outings with the HE families we have got to know well.
We also advertise days out on the Yahoo lists in case anyone else fancies coming along.
Don't feel guilty, although, as sorkcake said, being a parent is loaded with guilt sometimes!
You did what you thought was best for your children, and I hope your daughter is happy at school.
No decision is forever, and I, like you, would look into schooling for my children if they wanted to go back.

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