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I 've joined EO and made contact with the Yahoo groups for my area BUT

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sorkycake · 13/12/2006 11:28

they're all fighting with one another!

The bickering is simply disgraceful and has really put me off joining them for any activities.
The local EO contact is one of the worst offenders, and the girl who runs the other HomeEd group seems to be her main target.
So genuinely what do you do?
Is it just a phase that all groups go through or are they all nuts? I'm sure that some parents will have removed their kids due to bullying and intimidation, so don't expect to find it ongoing with HE parents. What's everyone else's group like?

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HumphreyCushiONtheFirstNoel · 13/12/2006 11:37

There are disagreements, as there is such a vast range of people involved, and groups evolve, which sometimes upsets people.
Please don't let the bickering put you off - most HE parents are lovely, and are no doubt looking on in horror as you are!
It may be a good idea to join in with an organised activity first ie: a day out, so you can get to meet everyone without any of the politics that may surround a group in its' 'home environment'.
What area are you in - we're in North Yorkshire.

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sorkycake · 13/12/2006 11:41

good points HC, will go on something rather structured/organised first.

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HumphreyCushiONtheFirstNoel · 13/12/2006 11:53

If you're anywhere near me I can send you a list of forthcoming events.

Runnerbean · 13/12/2006 12:55

Where are you Sorkycake?

I go to two local HE groups one is great and the parents there are lovely, but the other has some real strong characters who are a little intimidating sometimes. I try and keep out of any arguments and keep myself to myself, but even I've found myself being snapped at a couple of times, which almost put me off returning to the group after my first ever visit!

I think to HE in the first place takes quite a strength in character and we are probably challenged so much about what we do by outsiders that defending ourselves and lashing out is something we do more than most.

The beauty of HE however is unlike school where you are stuck with particular parents/children that we take a dislike to, we can simply choose to socialise elsewhere!

There are some really nice HE rs out there I'm sure you'll meet some soon.

FluffyMummy123 · 13/12/2006 12:55

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sorkycake · 13/12/2006 22:33

Sorry cod, the scraps are in emails .
We're in the North East so maybe a little far away from you both HC & Rb. There is another group within short travelling distance so that's always another option I suppose.
Will play by ear I think.
I understand your point about strong personalities Runnerbean, maybe it does come with the territory.
7 days to D-day.

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FluffyMummy123 · 13/12/2006 22:34

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Mehetabel · 31/12/2006 12:27

Hi Sorkycake

Are you within travelling distance of Sheffield? There is a lot going on around here

Cal04 · 11/01/2007 19:51

Just joined this site today so only just seen this thread. I'm HEing my daughter (14) and live in London. I was interested in what you were saying about the bickering. I havnt met up with anyone yet, except for the local contact and her two children. They really slagged off the local social club where all the kids and parents go. The two children (who reminded me of the Osbourne children - very old heads on young bodies), said the children and families were horrors! It was offputting but made me very curious to know what the group was really like - I'd probably like them!
The idea also of going to meet them was that the daughter was the same age as my daughter and her mother was very enthusiastic on the phone about them meeting. unfortunately, the daughter completely ignored my daughter the whole time she was there!!

Runnerbean · 11/01/2007 23:36

calo4 where in london are you?

Cal04 · 12/01/2007 18:57

Runnerbean, I'm in Pimlico/Victoria, well just by Victoria Coach station - are you London too?

Runnerbean · 12/01/2007 21:18

Yes but I'm South East.
There is a Central London Home Educators google group list (CLHE) they might be useful to you.

inhindsight · 13/01/2007 19:06

Sorkycake,
I was interested to read your not so good experiences with the local HE groups.
I have been he-ing my young daughter in Tyne and Wear for the last year and have been a member of both Yahoo groups you mentioned. I have recently left one group because of the back-biting aimed at the other group. I must say, that from what I could see, it was not the group members who had a problem but the group Owner, who also happens to be the local EO contact.(blush)!! I have sinc left that group and I had hoped the bickering might have stopped.

I am sorry you have been put off joining in with the activities due to the recent bickering between the two groups However the bad feeling is caused by only one or two individuals and the rest of the folk(from both groups)are really nice people. Many of us would like the 2 groups to come together as one, but as you mentioned,the local EO contact seems to be on some sort of vendetta and will have none of it.
Anyway, what I want to say is, dont give up on us. We really are a friendly bunch and my daughter and I have had some really fun times with the group we attend and the "educational visits", we have been to.

Cal04 · 14/01/2007 08:13

Thanks for that Runnerbean, I'll look into it.

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