Are there any parents here whose DPs' do the HEing while they work?

[BelfryWitch]

I am one of them!

It's a bit isolating, tbh and I was wondering if there are any others like me hanging around?

Do you mean you work and your partner does the HE? If so, yes!

Hello friend!

How're you doing with it? My two are 7 and 5 and have always been HE'd by DP.

I flexitime, so actually I do a lot of the social stuff with the children while my SAH partner has a break. Best of both worlds :) Worth looking into whether it's possible in your work? People are now used to the way I suddenly go into a panic about 1pm and hoosh my children off home so that I can get to work for some desperately important meeting :D (and then i get home from work about 930pm or 10pm, so I miss bedtime. better and better!)

Flexitime sounds wonderful but sadly completely impossible in my line of work.

It's a bit of a funny position to be in - HEing your kids only it's not actually you doing it.

We only took our son, who's 9, out of school in June but it's going well! I do lots of research about resources, trips etc and struggle not to interfere! I do have one day a week off though - we've joined a group and I'll probably take him to their activities on my day off.

DH and I both work full time. We are trying to de-register our both DC from their current school as it is too far and is not a good school. They have a private tutor who is coming 1x week and then allocating homework. However the local school is insisting that this is not enough and refusing to de-register.

Hi VanillaLatte13

Have you sent the school a letter instructing them to deregister? They have no discretion in this matter. They are legally required to remove your children from the register promptly, and the proprietor (who is usually the headteacher) is personally liable to a fine if he or she fails to do so. It is not up to them to evaluate the education you plan to provide at home.

If they have acknowledged receipt of your dereg letter in writing then you could safely ignore them. If you prefer, you could complain to the LA about them and the LA should set them straight with respect to the law.

If you have no proof that they received your letter, re-send it by recorded delivery.

Saracen,
I have emailed the school (got a read receipt from their office admin) and a call from the parent liaison officer.
I've also sent them a letter with my request to de-register DC, but have not got a formal acknowledgment except the call. I will follow your advice and re-send the letters with rec. delivery.

I will definitely contact the LA to complain.

Thank you so much.

Sort of - dh and I both work at home and he home eds them. I do one day a week (if both the dc and I can be bothered) with them and often take them to activities (on that same day).

Mine are 8 and 5.

I think it's fairer to say we share the home edding (I like to think we do anyway! You might have to ask DH) but as I am full and DH is very part-time he does the lions share. Sometimes my days off are weekdays though (this is one of the advantages of home ed for us) so I still get to take them to some groups. They also learn a lot from their grandparents so I guess really it's a group effort.