Hi SD, I'm quite formal with my two boys, but mainly because they need to over-learn things to do with literacy in order for it to 'stick'.
I do know some people with dyslexic children who are completely autonomous though.
My two have one hour each a week of specialist tuition at Dyslexia Action (formally the Dyslexia Institute).
It is about £30 per child, per hour , but they both love it, and they get a lot out of their lessons. Their teacher is wonderful - she really understands dyslexic children, and how to motivate and encourage them. (It is a real struggle to pay for this on one wage though - and of course the LEA pay nothing towards the education of HE children! )
We do our formal stuff in the morning. I work from home, so they do their maths and literacy whilst I work. Then they work on their projects. DS1 loves archaeology and history; DS2 loves science and nature. They work together sometimes, alone at other times.
Afternoons are spent either at their lessons with other people, at HE groups, going on outings or going for a walk, visiting family etc.
And occasionally we stay in our pyjamas all day, watch movies and eat popcorn!
They do their maths and literacy seven days a week, and in the holidays, but it is just part of the routine now, and they have both improved their concentration, their maths skills, and their literacy since leaving school.
They both still see school friends (Headteacher is very kind, and DS1 went on a four night school trip with them last year), have music lessons, go to a martial arts club, swimming etc.
But without the terror and stress of trying to get on in an education system that ground down their self-esteem and their confidence.
Why not give it a try?
Best wishes with whatever you decide, and good luck with the move.