I'm going to ask Head to allow flexitime- any good ideas how?

[guggenheim]

Actually,I'm beyond livid. My bright,confident,sociable 4yr old is now an unhappy,aggressive wreck. I think I've seen him smile one or twice since school began.I knew he had been in trouble at school yesterday but have since realised that he is utterly terrified. I was mildly cross with him for doing something dangerous and he looked stricken,bent down to the floor and covered his head. Obviously,this is not his usual reaction to being asked to stop.The telling off he received yesterday (from school) has left him shaken. Do I even need to add that he has asd? He was rude and uncooperative in the dinner hall.

I am at the end of my tether. I don't feel that school have supported him,although I believe that teaching staff/ senco are trying. They have not taken up my suggestions for how to 'contain' ds at school- which has made it all much,much worse.

I feel that the situation is going to escalate and result in some hideous kind of 4yr old aggression / meltdown. And I may lose the plot entirely if they don't stop treating ds as though he is one of satan's own. HE"S 4 for fuck's sake.

Does anyone have a good persuasive argument to present to school? The situation is dire.

Why flexi rather than home ed? Undoubtedly part-time dire is better than full-time dire, but it still isn't good. Will it be OK if they are treating your son "as though he is one of Satan's own" for only three hours a day instead of six?

Plus, if you decide to HE then you don't need to persuade anyone. You can just do it.

i'm very tempted but we really need the money from the 2 days a week that i work. I'm pretty sure that we will home ed at some point in the future but right now ds wants to play with his friends so flexitime seems to be the best way ahead.

Now if I had a lottery win tomorrow...

If you only work 2days a week would it be possible to leave him with family or a child minder for those days and home ed the rest?

have you met with the head teacher and senco? are they putting any support in for him at lunchtimes? are the staff aware that he has a disability and therefore reasonable adjustments need to be made?

(school can be a killer for children with ASD. ds is struggling. unfortunately it is not just my decision whether to HE. )

I hadn't though about childminder. Good idea.I'll ask the HT after half term and see what he says.

Yes,children with ASD have a poor time at school : (

Thank you

We are lucky enough not to need a child minder but there are home ed friendly ones in our area (although you are not allowed to use them for education with older children, just child care)