Jumped Ship [fconfused]

[Foreverweeding]

After a horrendous three months with a new witch teacher, and several meetings, discussions and many, many tears - we sent our de-reg letter.

We could take it no more. Reception was fantastic, but year 1 brought a new teacher to the school who has had many, many complaints. The Head has failed to address some serious issues involving child protection and other less serious complaints, namely poor communication and shouting at the children, lost books, lack of targets etc. etc. (too many to list), we were backed into a corner and could do no more.

I feel happy that we no longer need to see this woman but rather anxious of what we have done. I have home ed my other DCs in the past but hadn't intended to do so again as we thought we had finally found a decent school.

Please - any words of comfort. Rather needing a pep talk. My lovely boy is only 5 and has been through a lot. I also have several more grey hairs than I did before.

Thanks for reading!

Chill, it's almost christmas.
Enjoy the season and deschooling, make mince pies and decorations.
Educatinal freedom went live this year and they can put you in touch with other local home edders.
Where in the uk are you?

Hello Forever

I bet its a huge weight off your shoulders and things can and will only get better for your ds.
You have experienced H.ed before so you'll know what to do, and I also second making mince pies and decs.
We have finished the structured stuff now for xmas and having fun.
Tomorrow we are going shopping again for a while, maybe a trip to town to see all the jollies might cheer your ds up and just having fun.
Good luck to you and your little ds.

Yes, you are both of course absolutely right! 'Tis the season, and all that!

I feel a mixture of ruddy relief and oh flipping 'eck, all rolled into one.

Mince pies it is then.

Mmmm Mince pies

And many congratulations to you on taking your child out of a situation that was not right for them. I hope the school learns some lessons from it, and the teacher in particular.

Thanks Ommmward, although I doubt very much they'll learn much at all, but hey, I tried.

Sometimes it's a case of a situation not only being not right for the child but also the parents. The effect this has had on me too has been enormous and will take some time to shake off if I'm truthful. Still can't help running things around in my head, overthinking things if I'm honest. Whichever way I look at it though there was no way forward apart from putting up with things until next July, which we really couldn't do.

My advice to myself would be, pick yourself up, count yourself lucky you escaped and look to the future. I just have to follow my own advice.

Hi Foreverweeding!

I'm really sorry you and your son have had such a rough time and that you have felt pushed into leaving school when you would rather have stayed. What about your son, how is he feeling about leaving school?

I didn't really have any good advice for you, but then I overheard some excellent advice from a wise person who has been in your shoes. She says, "pick yourself up, count yourself lucky you escaped and look to the future" so all I can do is echo that because clearly she knows just what you are going through .

Hi Saracen! Well of course he is a tad pleased he's out (obvious understatement). As you say, I should take heed of the good advice of that obviously very wise and intelligent person you mentioned . There is though the scaredy cat part of me whose knees are wobbling. I suppose it'll take time to sink in.

Today he read his book, did lessons on Reading Eggs and Mathseed, did some drawing, played with his Lego and practised his writing. Erm .... Then we watched a film . Well, it is nearly Christmas!!

That sounds like a lovely mix of activities to me.
I'm sure your confidence will grow soon and your knees will stop wobbling.

Chill and be joyful :) Home ed is fun. Relax, watch your son, trust your son, watch him some more. You'll soon see he learns so much from living a joyful life free of unhelpful teachers that you really don't need to worry :) And watching films is fine - sit with him and enjoy it with him. Watch out for questions to answer, discussions he brings up afterwards, comparisons he makes. He's learning all the time :)