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Hi to everyone - new to HE

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alimumoftwins · 21/07/2012 22:19

Just 5 weeks into deschooling my 15 year old twin girls. After 3+ years of school refusing and their deteriorating mental state we decided to take the bull by the horns and reregister. Up to now it has been the best thing we've ever done. They are taking 3 IGCSEs in September - something they are keen to do. I only wish we had done this years ago. I have seen my daughters personalities disappear to be replaced with anger, anxiety and depression, suicidal thoughs and absolute misery. They have been bullied to such an extent they couldn't speak in school, had no friends, no one helped :(. The school didn't know what to do - all they were interested in was attendance. Their sadness has been intolerable for both myself and their father. I feel they have been damaged by the whole secondary school experience. The school have even tried to label them autistic - as their social skills had completely disappeared. Until a bullying episode in Year 7 they were fine - I know that sounds unbelieveable but I truly believe that is where their problems started. Wish me luck. My daughters now laugh, speak to me and have started to show emotion again - after 5 weeks! I honestly feel as though I would have been burying one of them if we'd carried on forcing them in! I am in touch with some homeschoolers in Liverpool and we are looking forward to our journey. I have got past the anger in knowing that if they had had behavioural problems the school would have been falling over themselves to help them - but with emotional problems there is no help whatsoever in our area. Ali x

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ThreadWatcher · 22/07/2012 00:03

Welcome :)
It is obvious that you have made the right decision for your dds. I am sure they will continue to enjoy the experience and make lots of friends.

HE is fab for me and mine too :)

ToffeeWhirl · 22/07/2012 09:40

Hello alimum Smile. Sounds like you have been through hell and it must be an enormous relief to have made the decision to take your girls out of school. I'm glad they are so much happier.

I have just deregistered my 12-year-old son and started this thread. There are quite a few other 'newbies' on there too and we are going to start a support thread so that we can swap tips, etc. You are welcome to join us.

Saracen · 22/07/2012 10:04

It's wonderful to hear that your girls are beginning to make a recovery after the misery they have been through. That's quite a dramatic turnaround in just five weeks!

Good luck with the exams. if it was me I would be nervous about embarking on anything like exams which could be at all stressful when your daughters have been feeling fragile so recently, but if they are keen then I expect it will be OK - especially if they know they could delay or resit the exams if they have difficulty.

I'm sure you and they know best what they can handle at the minute. They certainly sound like they are happy!!

alimumoftwins · 22/07/2012 19:08

Thanks to everyone for their lovely comments. I know we still have a long way to go. They still struggle outside the house and with people other than myself and their father but things are so much better.

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