Statemented child, home ed for secondary

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Dd is in yr4, has ASD, a statement and is academically very able and is very happy and well supported in her lovely and inclusive primary school. However I have a dread at the thought of secondary. She's naive, eccentric and not exactly inconspicuous and a prime target for bullying.
I don't want to home ed, I've never wanted to home ed that's why I got her statement before nursery but I can't bear the thought of my PFB (fifth) being unhappy and eaten alive in secondary.
My ds is at an independent specialist school and the fight for that nearly killed me. To get dd there LA would expect her to fail mainstream first.
So could it work for us? Any experience?
Thank you.

Could home education work for you?
Yes. No doubt. If the advantages of home ed outweigh the disadvantages of school, then of course it can.

Where do you live? Have you found home educators local to you?
What does your dd think about the idea?

Have you read anything about HE? There are threads here about books on HE and websites on HE, that you might find useful. I'll go bump them for you.

There are a high number of ASD children who are home educated-with a peak coming out at the beginning of high school in my experience.

Two of my three children were said to be ASD, all three had SEN. Home education has been very successful indeed for us.

Well dd doesn't want to grow up at all and doesn't want to go to secondary but any change is tough for her to think about tbh.
I'm sure I'd manage the academics, she's a sponge, she loves to learn and doesn't need much teaching or motivation.
I'd manage the ASD because I've been doing that for years.
I just worry that her world would become very small and I'll be honest that I might feel resentful that I have been forced to take on a role I have never wanted because our LA can't provide a school that would fit her needs (ds is out of County) and our schools aren't particularly geared for dd who is very fragile.

Oh my Dd2 had issues with growing up too.
I've known a number of HE SEN children saying similar. HE allows them to grow up at their own rate if you see what I mean, DD2 could slip between being a child and a teenager as she wanted/needed too, with no one commenting that she was being a baby. There was no pressure from others to grow up quickly that I saw in my other then schooled children.
By the time she was 16, dd2 was ready to go to FE college, so wasn't held back.

Our children's world opened so much wider after we began HE, as they fitted so much better with the HE community than they ever did at school. IMO and experience, school is one of the loneliest places on earth if you don't fit in.
That's why I commented about finding home educators local to you.

I was resentful briefly, that they couldn't provide for my children's SEN. I did feel we were forced into this. But for us the finding out about HE and doing it happened over one weekend, as things came to a huge crisis point. The resentment disappeared as HE became our lifestyle choice very quickly.
Did make me determined to tell the LA to sling their hook, when they wanted to come round and make comments and judgements about our HE. They didn't give a flying fig about our children before they left school.....