Help me please!!

[devientenigma]

Now don't shoot me, I am not electively HE my DS. He has been out of school due to various reasons. He has always been SS. Iv'e had him at home for 2 year and now I'm feeling dragged down by the demands he puts on me, his repetition and needing constant supervision. His limited attention span, his aggression and the fact when DH comes home I'm rushing round to get the house sorted etc.

Please pick me up x

What's SS?

How old is he?

can you 1) hire a local teen at minimum wage to entertain your son (or just supervise) while you sort the house out; 2) have some things locked away, or just kept out of sight (like, I don't know, in the loft or the garage or something) - you know, those things that get thrown all over the house every day, but never actually played with; 3) find a way of interacting with him that doesn't trigger the aggression (Taking Children Seriously? Maybe too woo? But it doesn't rely on verbal interaction like How To Talk so Kids will List...ohjustfuckoffyousmugNTbastards and some of those concepts, like common preference finding, and remembering parental fallibility, have been absolute lifesavers around here ) 4) find ways of channelling the repetition? Like, I know a small person who has NEVER ONCE cleaned their teeth (sensation too overwhelming) but when they went through a chewing phase recently, they were handed a toothbrush by their parent and they chewed on that pretty constantly for about 3 weeks. I was so impressed by that [it wasn't me, but I wish it had been]

Oh, and wait there a mo, I'll just get the Mumsnet Home Edders Forklift, so we can lift you up nice and high. xx

Age and development dependent: there comes a moment for letting go of various things. I'll PM you a personal experience...

PS read Deborah Jackson, Letting Go as Children Grow, and apply to your child's developmental stage

xx

Hi omm I hope I manage to answer everything. SS is special school, sorry. I really need a bit of a break from him during the day, even if it's an hour or so. He's nearly 11, however is on par with a 2-3 year old in many ways, although some things are just not there. He is severe learning Disabled and has many challenges and diagnosis. He is predictable but unpredictable. He also needs constant supervision due to this. He has no sense of danger and is quite destructible. However I will think hard into how to channel his repetition.

Thanks.

We have similar issues here - constant repetition, aggression, no sense of danger, random screaming etc....my little girl is only 7 though....and it can drive me nuts!!!

I am a single parent so I try to get her involved in other activities as much as possible so that I can have a break....sometimes it's only for an hour so can't do anything except have a cup of coffee and nothing more. Also, there are very severe sleep issues and sleep walking so I have to pace myself...

We signed up for Explore Learning (got a half-price scholarship) and that gives me an hour twice a week and since a lot of the stuff is computer based she enjoys it.....and a French club that lasts a similar time and Rainbows....although she couldn't cope with school at all, she enjoys social contact as long as it's limited to an hour or so. Explore learning is the tutor thing that they have in Sainsburys - it's been a real lifesaver as it's one of the only times I can eat a meal in peace or have a coffee by myself.

Not sure it's been any help, but just wanted to know that your post encouraged me because it's reassuring to know someone else has similar issues....

Thanks