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School recruiting TA - is it time to HE?

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benito · 17/02/2011 18:32

School are interviewing for a TA for DS1 (7 and Aspie) tomorrow.

I have been posting on the SN board here for years (literally) about my battles with school.

Even when a statement was issued, they still tried to shake off the extra work he causes them (although he is not behind and has no beavioural problems) by trying to reject him and his statement.

That debacle is over but was extremely stressful.

DS2 is 5 and really could take or leave school. He has moaned since day one. He as already been turned off reading and he's only just begun.

The school is very academic, with high expectations of independence and little in the way of pastoral care or genuine warmth.

They are just very straight and my kids seem like round pegs in square holes.

So, I've been toying with HE'ding until we get sorted somewhere else. This might take a while but it feels like freedom to me at the moment even though it will seriously compromise my ability to work (I work freelance so I can work around this but weekends etc).

It just feels in my heart better than week after week of constant battles and sniping and knowing my kids (especially DS1) are in school which doesn't gives a rats ass about them.

I kind of think that I should do it before they offer someone the job.

DH would do as I asked as it is my 'sacrifice' in terms of time.

Am I mad? Is this fight or flight? Or is is embracing freedom and regaining control??

OP posts:
LauraIngallsWilder · 17/02/2011 19:37

Hi Benito
In your situation I would HE
Our situation was similar and we have now been very happily HEing for 18 months. :)
DS is 9 now, also an aspie like your son.

I swing from absolutely loving it, to finding things a struggle (wide shifts of emotion within one day are not uncommon!)

I say go for it - try it for a year or so and see how you all find it

Wine and Brew is helpful for the tricky times!

julienoshoes · 17/02/2011 20:14

Oh I recognise that school situation......for all three of my children!
I swear ten years on I still have the dents in my forehead from where I bashed my head against a brick wall for so many years!

All three of my children have SEN, and we haven't a singe regret!
Our lives were transformed and we have had such a ball. Our children are all planning to home educate their own children in the future to keep them free from such trauma, and allow them to have such fun!

All three have gone from children who hated reading/school work and were really really stressed, into young people who love learning and are doing extremely well at college and University!

No regrets except I wiah I had known about HE sooner and never sent them to school!

Have you seen the Home Ed Special Needs email support list?
There you will find lots of empathy, support and good advice, from people who know exactly what you are talking about.

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