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***MrsWobblethewaitress***

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lolapoppins · 20/07/2010 21:53

Hopefully you will see this in here, or someone will point you in the direction of this thread.

Just wanted to say that I was going to respond to you on your other thread, bit I didn't know if you would bother reading anymore replies.

Just to say we have sort of been where you are now, and that if you want to 'talk' I totally understand!

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 21/07/2010 21:44

A little birdie told me there was a post for me here! Thank you

I think we are getting there now, and it has just occurred to me, in FB discussion with someone else, that we have been ambling along, doing much the same sort of thing now, with very slight differences, for years now. I think DD1 is saying 'I need a change'.

So I am expecting to be in a very different place HE-wise this time next year. Socialising with different people, in different ways at different times and different places. I'm quite excited about it, and DD1 seems about a million times happier since I asked her to give me a term to change things - she immediately said 'I don't want to go to school anyway'.

I really think she was saying, I'm not happy the way things are, but I don't know how to get them to change.

Are you on FB?

lolapoppins · 21/07/2010 22:02

On mumsnet fb you mean? If so no, never been approved

I felt so bad for you when I read some of the other replies you got. It's all to easy for people who haven't had the experience of HE to say 'ffs, just send her to school'. As most people who HE know, life isn't that balck and White, especially when you have other children to consider as well.

Also, it's not as simple as a child saying they want to go to school. Like you say, sometimes they just need a change. It's hard to get jumped on by other people saying you are not doing your best for your dc by not immediatly putting them back into school the second they mention it.

Fwiw, I have found it quite hard with friendships with other home educators in my area. I have to travel 20-30 mins to see people as well, as we are very rural, and sometimes it feels as if I am doing all the running too. Last year, I made a real effort with groups etc, even though ds didn't really like the unstructured free for all nature of most of them, but through them I met a handful of people I did like, and luckily they had dc the same age as ds who got on well together. Through them I found out about more structured HE things which suited ds better, and as I saw those people more
and went to the new classes I felt I could leave the groups that I didn't like.

Ds also does a lot of after school classes, and while I know that some people think that children don't make proper friends at after school type classes, I have found that ds really does.

I'm glad you have found a solution that will suit you and your dd. I felt so bad reading your thread and the HE aspect being jumped on, hopefully the new term will work out well for you all.

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 22/07/2010 10:44

The more I think about it, the more daft I think it is! Can you imagine how I'd be jumped on if someone was saying 'my child hates school but I don't want to HE' and I said 'well that's pretty pathetic and unkind to her'. I'd be lynched!

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 22/07/2010 10:45

Oh, and I meant FB in general - wanted to add you as a friend.

lolapoppins · 22/07/2010 11:26

Oh, I know what you mean. When my ds was clearly miserable at school and used be ask to stay at home and read with me instead no one said to me '"ffs, just home edcucate him then, it's what he wants". It's stupid that people get jumpednon of it the other way round.

Yep, am on fb in general, will try and CAT you.

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MathsMadMummy · 22/07/2010 12:55

hi MrsW

glad you're feeling more optimistic now. what changes are you planning to make?

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 22/07/2010 19:48

Have I got you on FB, MMM? I've got myself all in a muddle! I know I know a lot of you MN HEors well on FB, but can only match a few of you up to your MN personas!

MathsMadMummy · 22/07/2010 20:02

yes indeedy - I'm DB, with the photo of me, DH, DD and baby DS. in fact you just commented on my papier mache mountain post just now

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 22/07/2010 20:04

Yay! I know exactly who you are, lovely lady

I don't think I have lolapoppins though....yet!

MathsMadMummy · 22/07/2010 20:06

no me neither yet!

lolapoppins · 22/07/2010 20:06

Just sent you a CAT message!

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 22/07/2010 20:10
MathsMadMummy · 23/07/2010 00:05

I found you on FB lolapoppins

can I add you too please?

lolapoppins · 23/07/2010 00:17

Yep, sure! The more home educators the better for when my mental half sister posts nasty things about it on my profile!

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MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 23/07/2010 01:42

Can you suggest her to me, MMM? MN taking ages to send the CAT through

MathsMadMummy · 23/07/2010 07:43

oh! in that case who is the lady you added with initials JA? I thought that was lolapoppins and added her... oops this could be awkward

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 23/07/2010 07:49

Hahahahahahaha! I wondered why you'd added her! She's an HEor from Cardiff who I don't know, but who invited me to be her friend when I posted on another friend's page about coming along to the meeting she goes to!

She's got the wrong children to be lolapoppins I think!

MathsMadMummy · 23/07/2010 08:08

that's what I just realised! oops...

Butterpie · 23/07/2010 08:14

How many of you do I have as friends? I'm AD with two children in my profile picture with me wearing glasses...

MathsMadMummy · 23/07/2010 08:23

you have meeee but you knew that right

Butterpie · 23/07/2010 08:25

Yep

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 23/07/2010 08:26

Well I knew who you were....but did you remember who I was...??????

lolapoppins · 23/07/2010 09:18

Lol, that not me! Will send another cat message to you both!

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MathsMadMummy · 23/07/2010 09:28

can't believe I did that. I don't think I have that CAT thing BTW I don't know what it is! will steal you off MrsW later. hopefully I'll get it right this time

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