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To give DD the bigger bedroom

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:03

So this really. I’m moving into a 2 bed house following a separation. I have a teenage daughter and think I am going to give her the bigger bedroom. You can see on the photo (pink are the two bedrooms) that there isn’t much in it size wise. But she will be spending a lot more time in her room and will be able to have a dressing table in etc. Am I crazy to give her the room? I can fit a double bed, wardrobe and chest of drawers, TV etc. I just don’t need the extra space don’t use a dressing table anyway!

To give DD the bigger bedroom
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JohnLapsleyParlabane · 20/05/2025 08:04

I think if it works for you, then it's a great idea. Congratulations on your new house

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:06

Thankyou so much. I feel so scared. Not having enough space etc. but it’s only me and DD. I don’t need anything bigger! Xx

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SummertimeFeelingFine · 20/05/2025 08:07

I would do that too. I don't need a big bedroom, and I'd prefer my child to have a good setup in her bedroom.

SummertimeFeelingFine · 20/05/2025 08:08

A happy home is far, far more important than lots of space. 💐

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:08

This is what I was thinking. She needs more space than me as she will go through high school with her studies etc. she lives in her room in the marital home so it just makes sense.

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:09

It’s been a really rough few months and I just want to feel settled. Think I’m panicking because I’m going from a large 4 bed to a dinky 2 bed. But it will be my dinky two bed xx

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ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 20/05/2025 08:09

From one Chimpanzee to another - all the best for this new chapter. 😉

Fearfulsaints · 20/05/2025 08:10

I think it's fine. Teens spend a lot of time in their rooms and bring friends to hang out in thier room. You have the lounge area to do that in.

cwfen · 20/05/2025 08:11

My DC have the bigger rooms as they spend more time in them. I have the whole house once they've got to bed!

It works for us.

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:11

If I was moving into a box room then I know it would be a daft decision. But it’s not that much smaller really just a bit wider for her. Xx

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devildeepbluesea · 20/05/2025 08:11

I gave 7yo DD the bigger bedroom when we moved, hoping to keep all the toys etc upstairs. It kind of worked and now she’s 12 I’m even more glad.

WokeMarxistPope · 20/05/2025 08:12

Good luck with your new home! I think your idea is sensible. You’ll have more space and are likely to have the sitting room as predominantly your space too.

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:13

Opinions please as I feel I am totally unable to make my own decisions at the moment 😂😩..there is no need for me to go bigger is there? DD will be at her dads a lot aswell so it really is just me and her. Even if I meet someone which I do not plan on doing for a long time…moving to a 3 bed will just be more money, more bills and more housework…think I need a bit of a hand hold that everything will be ok xx

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SummertimeFeelingFine · 20/05/2025 08:14

It will be okay. It's much better to have a small, cosy home that's safe and happy and where you're not stretched financially. Teenagers get more and more expensive and having some extra money every month is much better than a bigger house.

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:24

Thankyou for this. Just need some reassurance I think it’s a scary time xx

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SummertimeFeelingFine · 20/05/2025 08:24

I've been there! Everything worked out okay. 💐

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:25

Lived in his shadow for so many years..time for me to get my independence but my god I’m terrified xx

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SummertimeFeelingFine · 20/05/2025 08:42

I haven't got experience with that specifically but I can tell you that while I found being alone and responsible for children and home was scary at first, I soon hit my stride. You will find that your inner resources are there even if they're buried a bit and you are much stronger than you think. It may take some time but you will learn to trust your own opinions and what does or doesn't bring you peace. A quiet, settled, peaceful home life is one of the best things you can give your daughter.

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 08:49

Thankyou for this. I needed to hear it. I’ve struggled terribly with my mental health over the last few months and I think it’s that that scares me…the thought of being on my own xx

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Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 20/05/2025 09:46

You might want to put it in terms of 'for now I think it is best if you have this room'. Then if for any reason when she goes to university etc. you feel the need to swap rooms for any reason there is less of an option to debate it. They both look a fairly similar size so I think it makes sense. Hope you enjoy making a really cozy home for you both.

piscofrisco · 20/05/2025 09:52

We have given dd2 the bigger and nicer room that was formally ours, and we now have he old one which in fairness was one of the two least nice bedrooms in the house. She spends more time in her room anyway and she has her exams etc so it’s probably more important that she and the space and comfort to revise etc.
if and when she goes to uni we are moving back into it though! It’s fine and the most sensible decision I think.
Good luck for your move OP. After my divorce the only thing that made me begin to feel remotely better was moving from the former family home to somewhere that was just mine. It’s transformative (though it feels terrifying at first). Lots of love to you.

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Chimpannazee · 20/05/2025 09:53

Thankyou so very much I needed to hear this today xxx

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