Hi…. So I’m questioning myself here….
we have 4 children, 18,12,10,8.
We work hard, have a nice home, just about make ends meet to give us and the children a nice life.
On a Friday we like to go to our local pub, a lovely country park, with a kids play park etc, lovely atmosphere, our youngest in particular actually asks us when we pick her up from school on a Friday if we can go to the pub. The kids enjoying it, more often that not they have friends there, so can play etc, have a can of pop and a bag of sweets.
Sometimes, we go out as a couple if we’re going out with friends or if there is a band on or anything like that and we’ll have a late one and get a little drunk, up until recently the 18 year old would babysit as we’d pay here but the past few months this has got less and less and she’s telling us she shouldn’t be doing it, which is fair enough. Sometimes we ask grandparents but they don’t really want to have the kids and we are always governed with times etc.
We went to our sons football Christmas party at this pub on Friday evening, the grandparents had the two youngest and we said we’d collect them on the way home (as they didn’t want to sleepover), so party started at 7, then we got a message at 10.45 saying grandad was sat in the car park and the girls had had enough…. (I asked the girls the next day and they said there were fine).
Im on here now as my 18 year old is telling me there is something wrong with this and telling me it’s wrong for us to want to go out and let our hair down… ? Is it? Should I just be a Mum, day in, day out. Because my life at the moment is I get up, sort the kids, take them to school, work, pick them up from school, give them tea, clean up from tea, go to bed…. To be honest the 18 year old has really annoyed me with this and made me feel like absolute shit!