When your dp likes decor/ ornaments you hate!

[malificent7]

Do you compromise? Cannot be too specific as outing!

Hahaha nope. Bye bye tat ornaments.

Fortunately dh doesn't really care about paint colour, ornaments, soft furnishings etc, only the practical aspects of the house, so I generally get to choose the aesthetics! But I'd also certainly have the right of veto if he did suddenly suggest some hideous accoutrement of some kind.

Ha ha.
Oh How this has made me and my friends all laugh.

Dh had a 'pub carpet' in the lounge when I moved in. And anaglypta wallpaper everywhere. My friend came to visit she said : 'oh my lord the old couple who lived here before had terrible taste in wallpaper didn't they. '

'I chose that' said Dh.

Now the Whole house has white walls cream carpets and colours splattered around on cushions and curtains.
He doesn't care, zero bothered.

anaglypta

When I met dh he couldn't even tell which of his ties went with which of his shirts. There was no way he was being let loose on decor decisions. (Not a 'useless husband' rant - he is perfectly capable in pretty much every other way, he just doesn't really do colours!).

Depends how bad/different.
Mostly we compromise, we have veto power for each other if we feel strongly enough about it.

Ok...i will be specific.My dp has been left an 'interesting' garden ornament ( not a gnome). From his late mum plus a few other rugs etc. He wants them in our new home. I feel mean saying no as they remind him of mum but they aren't to my taste. I'm going to have to put up with them aren't I?!

Some of the things are lovely but others not so much.

Compromise. The gnome yes.
Rugs, not so much.

I think you need to decide what you really can't live with.
We have tacky garden ornaments because DH thinks they are great.
I may have misplaced a few 'trophies' when we moved.
Generally I let him have a small victory here and there as a compromise. He doesn't really care but it is his house too and always saying No that looks crap is mean.

I can't really bring myself to care about garden stuff tbh, but rugs that I hated or that didn't go with the decor... definitely a nope.

You kept the things that are lovely (no brainer).
Other stuff - how sentimental is it? How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
Let that guide you.

DH's mother had an obsession about leaving her children a large item of furniture.
Said item was not an attractive, expensive antique.
Her house was filthy and everything covered in a thick layer of nicotine.
Dh was concerned that we had to take it because it's in the will.
It went in the garage for about a week until the stench of cigarettes started to permeate to the rest of the house - it went to the tip.

I have some stuff from my parents house. It’s stuff DH would prefer not to have! But I’ve kept only the sentimental things and a few proper heirlooms. For me it’s about our home being a home. Not an Instagram account.