AIBU homeswap?

10 replies

Halli2020 · 12/05/2020 09:48

Hi everyone. I have found a one bedroom flat for myself to swap with. Firstly my flat is all newly decorated and I have spent a lot of money on it for furnishing and carpets. My flat is immaculate and has a garden, I am having to move due to needing to be nearer family. The flat I’m moving too has tatty carpets in the front room and bedroom and no hallway carpet - it is a lot smaller and not decorated very well. The kitchen is old and has no garden. AIBU to suggest taking my carpets with me? I don’t have this type of money to spend on another property again, or to request the woman puts down decent flooring before I move in. She did agree to this but I can’t help feel bad? Although I really don’t want to give up my lovely home for a sh*thole. Baring in mind I have to move and there are no other options except this property. Thank you.

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foodtoorder · 13/05/2020 20:49

I think it would be fair to either ask for a sum towards flooring or ask them to be laid and you detail your preference within a reasonable sum.
I do think it would be unreasonable to take it with you unless that is what you have negotiated.

Marylou2 · 14/05/2020 12:57

How are you swapping? Is there a significant price difference in the flats? Do You own one and are buying the other? What does your solicitor say about taking flooring?

Fruitytootie · 14/05/2020 13:10

If she's agreed with it then great. Don't feel bad about it.

Fruitytootie · 14/05/2020 13:11

Marylou2

If I'm right, Home swapper is a way for people in social housing to swap their homes with others in social housing - whether that's because they need more or less room, or to change location etc.

Marylou2 · 14/05/2020 13:29

Ah sorry! Of course. I wouldn't feel bad if someone had agreed.

SlothsRock · 15/05/2020 02:45

I think that is reasonable, and I would suggest you both take your carpets with you rather than asking her to fit new flooring for you. That way neither of you have big expenses. Also if she buys you new flooring that you don't think is very good, you will both feel hard done by.

Taking carpets with you was the norm, years ago.

DuchessOfBeddington · 15/05/2020 03:09

Just to play devils advocate here, maybe the reason she agreed to the swap is because your place is lovely, in the same way you agreed because you wanted to live in her area to be closer. Maybe unfair to move the goalposts now?

1300cakes · 15/05/2020 03:26

I think it was fair to ask, it would gave been fair if her to say no. But she's agreed to it so take yes for an answer.

nobodysdaughter · 15/05/2020 03:50

It depends how much you want to swap. It's HARD to get a mutually agreeable exchange these days, start going on about carpets and the other tenant might pull out.

noriim · 15/05/2020 09:23

Don't feel bad, she agreed to it.
I don't see there's a problem?

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