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Having DC swap bedrooms?

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BettyBo33 · 05/05/2019 23:43

4 bedroom house-each child has their own room. DD11 has biggest kids room (it’s not huge by any means but is a double) DS16 has next biggest- can fit a small double- just. Poor DD8 has tiny box room. Youngest has the smallest room but the most plastic toot! It spills into the living room as she has no space. Other DD is now out of that stage but likes a space for friends. Am tempted to put DS in box room but this room has to be passed by everyone (his current room is tucked round a corner so a bit more private being a teen) we have an outdoor shed I could change into a ‘den’ but concerned DS would smoke in there and I don’t want that...

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HennyPennyHorror · 06/05/2019 02:43

Change the outdoor shed into a den for the child who needs more toy storage.

Make it a playroom. It's her compensation for having the tiny room and as she gets older, she can use it as a hang out with friends.

SleepingSloth · 06/05/2019 02:57

It depends what your son thinks. Does he mind being moved into the smallest room? If he is against moving then I wouldn't do it. Your youngest is 8, sadly in the next couple of years she will probably not want toys anymore so the problem won't exist anyway.

Alicewond · 06/05/2019 03:00

Don’t swap them, older children need more space, to switch will seem you care less for the one being moved to the smaller room

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BettyBo33 · 06/05/2019 07:48

Interesting replies, thank you! I don’t want to make the den for the little one or she’d be outdoors playing on her own. I get that the issue will change again in a few years and hadn’t thought about whoever gets bumped taking it so personally. I think swapping the girls would be best, with DD11 in box roll with shed as a hangout..

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BettyBo33 · 06/05/2019 07:48

I meant room!

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Prequelle · 06/05/2019 07:50

I think swapping them would be unfair and will cause resentment.

Springerspaniel88 · 06/05/2019 07:56

Unless any of them want to swap I think it would be really mean. Can't she have some of her plastic in the living room?

HennyPennyHorror · 06/05/2019 07:58

Betty not really...she could bring things into the house when she wanted them...and then the den is more like storage unless she has a friend over.

Otherwise your solution of older dd in box room would work if you sell the idea of the den as a great recompense.

NancyJoan · 06/05/2019 08:01

At 8, your DD is probably coming out of the other side of the plastic crap era too. Your older two need space to hang out away from the family, have a desk to do homework etc.

Jaz32 · 06/05/2019 08:38

I wouldn't swap a pre teen from a big room to a box room it's not fair, store the least played with toys in the shed and then get rid of them.

We only have 3 bedrooms so our boys age 10&8 share a large double and dd age 18months has small single. Ds10 has asd/adhd and would like his own room (one day we will hopefully have an extension) as he doesn't always get on with his brother these days, the only temporary solution we've offered is he has the small single and we move dd in with ds8 in the large room as they are very close and get on well and both sleep well, this would only work for a short term tho as obv not ideal having brother/sister sharing, but ds10 refuses to downgrade to the smaller room despite it then being his own room lol so we've said stay as you are then! We also have a large shed which is a den with dart board, pool table, punch bag and a sofa out there so he can go out there with mates for space!

lpchill · 06/05/2019 14:45

Have you looked at decluttering her toys and/or maybe changing her bed to one with more storage (cabin bed, ottoman bed or mid sleeper bed?)

If she's 8 then could safely use a stool so you can make use of the height in the room a little more perhaps. So couple of rows of shells to a safe height for her and even higher for storage that you could use (e.g next size clothes)

I wouldn't move them unless they are in agreement for it. The dynamics will change and the use of toys will start to lessen soon.

Mayalready · 06/05/2019 14:47

Presume box room has an actual door ds can shut??

meran · 06/05/2019 14:50

I think this would be very harsh on your Ds. You have already given one of his younger sisters a bigger room than him and now you want to downgrade his room.

UCOinanOCG · 06/05/2019 14:51

If he is 16 swapping him from his room with a small double bed to a room that i assume will only fit a single seems rather pointless. Leave them as they are.

phenomenalcat · 06/05/2019 14:55

Put the problem to the kids and see what solutions they come up with. They can be super inventive and would enjoy the change if it was their idea.

StickOfRhubarb · 06/05/2019 15:07

My dd was in a super tiny box room for years and we managed it by storing dd’s clothes in the bigger bedroom belonging to the other dc.

woodhill · 06/05/2019 15:19

No, leave the eldest in the room.

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