I can't settle in my new home

[tmh88]

I know how crazy this already sounds but I really can't settle in my new home! And I'm am feeling very overwhelmed by it at all! We moved from a small cottage close to our families to a large semi detached about 25-30 minutes away! I think the size of the house is making me feel a bit lost to be honest, the living room here was the size of our kitchen and living room in our old home, so I should find it fantastic as we had to move for more space (no garden in old house) and better schools here (when my baby starts school that is🙈) but can't help but feel sick missing my old home and as we bought this as a bit of a project (mainly decorating think it was last done in the 70s) the decoration which I thought I wouldn't mind actually is bothering me now! I don't feel like I can get the decorating done any faster and it's taking forever as every room is woodchip wallpaper! It's a really strange sort of feeling I'm having about it at the minute like I have left my straighteners on x100 and feel like I need to go back to my old home! Does this feeling settle down? They also have a really large dog next door and I can't help but being scared to be in the garden with my baby as it just stares at him so I'm wanting a taller fence up for the summer as I have stroked the dog and he was lovely but he just follows my baby round with his eyes, so now I have the big garden and don't use it haha! I know I probably sound ungrateful it's just I can't make this place feel like home! I think it'll make a difference when it's decorated nicely and we have the new boiler in this week! I feel at the moment like I'm in a hotel like it hasn't really hit me it's mine also I am suppose to be returning to work in may and haven't heard anything from the business I work for even though I have tried getting in touch twice this month which is worrying meI know they can't not let me have my job back but what would I do for money then, I just feel like I have a million things going round my head at the minute! Maybe I just need a glass of wine and to chill out haha! Sorry for the long post but any advice will be gladly taken!!

Moving is very stressful. You've done the difficult bit of getting into your new home. Break down all the tasks that need doing bit by bit and it will seem less overwhelming. It's normal to have this anxiety. Enjoy your new home.

How long have you been there? Don’t underestimate the upheaval of starting again in a new place when you were happy and comfortable elsewhere.

It took us a good six months to a year to start feeling like we were settled in our new place. It’s totally normal and it will pass.

How long have you been there? I cried the first night in my ‘dream’ home when I moved in 2 years ago - decided I hated it! It took a few months to grow on me when the decorating started to make progress and it started to feel more personal with my stamp on it. It really feels like home now and I love it (though it still needs a new kitchen and bathroom).

It’s just not home yet but it will be. It’s a perfectly normal feeling.

I still feel like this 18months on, but we have only just been able to start decorating/renovating so I’m sure I will feel more settled once that is done.

I'm so glad it's not just me that feels like this! 😂 I must admit I think it's the decor that isn't homely to me! So I think once all that is going to be done and sorted we will be fine! I just can't help missing my little first family home! 🙈

25-30 mins away is still local!

You've been through an awful lot of upheaval recently - you've had a baby, are planning a return to work, have packed up and moved house further away from family/friends and have undertaken a lot of decorating/diy with your new house.
It's totally understandable that you are feeling tense and nervous as you feel like you no longer have your safe place to relax in. You also probably have lots of special memories and "firsts" from your old house but you will make lots of new special memories in the new house.
Your new home will start to feel like yours as you settle in and complete decorating tasks you will enjoy being in the new house.
Try decorating a room at a time (choose a room your in most first) rather than painting in lots of different areas, then at least you can relax in that room.
Be patient and kind to yourself.

Thankyou everyone! 💕 the carpet for the living room is coming today and then that one room has finished! I drove past my old house yesterday and felt nothing towards it as who moved in has ripped up all the garden and flagged it as daft as it sounds it didn't feel like my old home when I saw it and felt more like this one was (having a nearly complete living room helps a lot!) 😂