Help - A difficult decision, difficult baby long w/e in France, one hotel room plus toddler.....

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We go every year to the same hotel, to go to the "Classsic LeMans 24hr race" We have taken DS since he was a baby, and sharing a hotel room has been fine.
Now we have DD - nealry 11 months old. She seems to ahve reflux, and is just on Gaviscon, but I think needs more. She often wakes at night, and cries for up to 2 hours, before crashing. Recent hotel stays have been a disaster with either one, or both children up and crying most of the night.
DS has asthma, and has been coughing and waking DD in the dawn hours, which makes her even grumpier than she is already.
Dh and I are not getting on, and I can see the whole thing being awful. We are going with friends who will at least help with the kids during the day, but I am dreading the nights, and not getting a chance to catch up on any sleep.
I COULD not go, and stay here with DD, while DH takes DS. But I want to go, I like the food, the hotel, love the motor racing.
Any tips??

Is there anyone you could leave dd with seeing as she is too young to enjoy the racing anyway? then you could have a break too..

or book 2 rooms and you sleep in one with ds and your dh sleep in the other with dd (or vice versa?)

no-one can leave DD with - they're all coming with us.
Hotel is fully booked - we had problems even getting enough rooms for our party!!

I would not go for this year (but then, we haven't been since DS was born in spite of saying beforehand how lovely and childfriendly it was and how we'd definitely still come with children. Actually, thinking about it, we really should go next year, although that's not relevant to your dilemma.

It's just one year -- next year your DD will be nearly two and her reflux will either be gone or be under better control.

Or can you get your GP to take you seriously and give your DD better reflux meds

just me and DD not go? or all of us?
Trouble if we all don't go is that the others in the party are relying on us to guide them - as we are the only one who have been before. they are primarily going because we are going!!

Try and get a camping pitch near the track for during the day so that you can crash whilst others have got the kids ?

DH, his brothers and FIL are all going - this year DH will be smug non snorer with his CPAP after previous complaints about his snoring. They camp very close to the action.

can one of your party book in a diff hotel so you can have their room?

is your ds a good sleeper? could he camp out in one of your friends rooms in the hotel?

Hmmm. I have a reflux baby (grown out of it now at 18mths) and I don't think I would have stayed in a hotel with him.

It is just SO stressful to be somewhere where you will be conscious of disturbing other people.

I hate to say this, but if you've "committed" to other people, I would "let" DH go (with or without DS - age?) and stay at home this year.

the whole thing sounds like a recipe for divorce !

I meant just you and DD not go for this year. You want to go, but you want to go to the idealised Le Mans weekend you have in your head where you enjoy the race and the food and the company and you can watch as much of the race as you want and then crash for a while. What you'll get is a screaming DD, no sleep, arguments with your DH because you're both so tired.

hmmm. tent out. Camping pitches booked v early on.
Alternate hotel sounds bliss, but we stay in v small busy village, so doubt there would be space - not sure it would help me and dh either !
DS 3.6 so no prob for DH to take alone.
Have tried fobbing off DS on friends, but they are all older than us, have done the kids thing and now want a holiday!

ok - now i hav Dr's appt for thurs next week (earliest I could get. There are some on friday, but I'm working and DH won't take her) - so if can get meds.......

GPs are sometimes reluctant to ddiagnose reflux in older child -- a friend went through hell with her eldest as the GP insisted he was "too old to have reflux". Amazing how his symptoms all cleared up once reflux medications were actually prescribed, though...

ah but i have precedent! I have a haitus hernia, my brother does, my dad did, and so does his brother. Its inherited!!
Her patterns at night almost exactly fit mine when I have a flare up. Have to sit bolt up right, lyingback at all is agony, often up for 2 or 3 hours at a time, then suddenly it goes, and I can crash back to sleep.

NOOO not alternate hotel.

ANY hotel will be bad with a reflux baby. Even on meds.

Sorry