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35 replies

freetospeakup · 14/03/2026 10:55

Do you enjoy talking to people and making friends on holiday? I absolutely hate it but DH goes out of his way to talk to people round the pool. I feel you then can get stuck with them. I like to switch off on holiday and not have to make small talk with strangers. He thinks I'm unsociable.

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Italiangreyhound · 14/03/2026 10:57

It's fine to do either.

Jaffalemons · 14/03/2026 11:02

Perhaps he’s bored. Go and do activities and see the places you travel to.

zurigo · 14/03/2026 11:16

I don't mind chatting to people, but would avoid making 'holiday friends' as wouldn't want to get stuck with the same couple/family or feel obligated.

Easterbunnygettingawrapping · 14/03/2026 11:20

Good grief no. We arrived at an Airbnb place to find the owner had set out afternoon tea in her kitchen... For 3 people.. Cringe..
We aren't sociable at all!!

freetospeakup · 14/03/2026 11:28

Easterbunnygettingawrapping · 14/03/2026 11:20

Good grief no. We arrived at an Airbnb place to find the owner had set out afternoon tea in her kitchen... For 3 people.. Cringe..
We aren't sociable at all!!

Haha oh poor you. That would be my worst nightmare.

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Theonlyfatmiddleagedwomannotonmonjaro · 14/03/2026 11:42

I dont make friends but happily socialise.

fluffythecat1 · 14/03/2026 11:44

I can’t see any point in it, it’s nice to switch off on holiday and not feel beholden to anyone. My chatty friend made the mistake of speaking to a local guy in the hotel in Morocco and we couldn’t shake him off for the rest of the week.

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 14/03/2026 11:49

I love having someone to chat to, probably because my working life is quite solitary.
However, I've made the mistake of accepting invitations from holiday friends to visit/stay with them when home - always a near disaster !

angelcake20 · 14/03/2026 22:28

Neither of us ever talk to anyone on holiday generally, though we have taken to going to the Caribbean occasionally and the Americans always chat.

whiteroseredrose · 14/03/2026 22:43

I couldn’t think of anything worse. Passing hello or a comment but that’s it.

illsendansostotheworld · 14/03/2026 22:55

Yep - love meeting new people on holiday!!

SabrinaThwaite · 14/03/2026 23:00

Have you seen ‘The Unfriend’?

It’s based on a true story …

MeganM3 · 14/03/2026 23:04

I’d never want to force it. But I have occasionally made friends on holiday. One of who is one of my closest friends 17 years later.

I don’t want to hang out or chat to people for the sake of it, on holiday or anywhere, but if there’s an organic connection then why not.

Miranda65 · 14/03/2026 23:10

God no. I don't want to talk to anyone on holiday. It's supposed to be a time for rest and relaxation. If your husband tried to talk to me by the pool I'd be appalled that he was being so intrusive.

momager1 · 14/03/2026 23:27

met a lovely couple at the airport..not much talking, just polite hello etc as we were very early and the only two people in line before the desk opened in Toronto. got on plane. They were seated across from us. Had a friend picking us up so did not go on transfer bus. We were sitting having lunch in the buffet when they walked in! over 50 resorts in the area and they were in the same one as us! 3 vacations together again.. they lived 3 hours from us in canada. I made their wedding cake and we were two of the 13 guests at their wedding. See them every time I fly back to Canada That friendship started 13 years ago.

On tripadvisor before a trip to the same resort we always went to, a woman from Belfast (were I was born and raised) was asking some questions. I answered her questions. Turns out that she lived in canada for 2 years with her grandparents before returning to Belfast, and loved yum yum pickles and turtle chocs. I needed germolene and tayto cheese and onion. She found me by my accent in the pool... 17 years later, and many trips together.. she is now ill and unable to travel, but I am going to head to belfast in the summer to see her and her amazing husband.

The final one. 22 years ago, we met a canadian who was actually our tour rep at resort .. a year after he had a new girlfriend that we met. He is now my husbands best friend, She is like a sister to me and we are godparents to their now 13 and 16 year old daughters. After over 40 visits to this island, they are the reason we moved here

But my husband always said "for gods sake...stop talking to randoms lol" now he admits I was right lol.

Letterfrack · 15/03/2026 00:48

Always had bad experiences of meeting fellow Brits on holiday when I was younger. Often an older middle-aged couple would start chatting and within 2 minutes the racist shit slides out of their dirty mouths.

I will go to an Air BnB over a hotel any day to avoid chatty people.

I would find your DH tedious @freetospeakupeven if he wasn’t talking to me as not interesting in distracting chatter polluting my poolside chilling - if he started inane banter with me I would be fucked off that he hadn’t read my body language forcing me to be unnecessarily assertive about my time and space!

FourForksSake · 15/03/2026 07:10

Ugh no, the chatty ones always monopolise the conversation. We did a cruise where most of the tables for two were literally two inches apart. Once you say hello to be polite, the bores and fantasists and elevenerifers take this as their cue to treat you as their audience. Confused

Squirrelchops1 · 15/03/2026 07:26

It's not our thing. However when we've been camping it's a bit different as sometimes it's genuine curiosity of us being the only Brits on site or people ask about travel with the dog or when we had our old van people definitely wanted to chat. I'm ok with that as we're all just doing our thing and the transient nature of van life means you know one or other is likely leaving in a day or 2.
People at work will come back saying about all these friends they've made on holiday and my brain says 'how'...and 'why'.
I'll be pleasant and chat. Partner doesn't even chat though lol. We've had holidays we've not talked to anyone else in a week.

We play the 'did they ask you anything' game as the amount of people ive met who prattle on about themselves but you realise never ask you anything or turn it back to them if you comment.

What do people get out of conversations like that?

Catcatcatcatcat · 15/03/2026 07:29

XH used to do this. Would drive me bonkers.

I would go to the loo and return to him chatting to some randomers. This is Carl and Anna from Bury….Aaaarrrrrgggghhhhh!!!

To be fair, I am an introvert and he was extrovert.

Talk it through before you travel.

exLtEveDallas · 15/03/2026 07:47

I am quite introverted- I'm fine and chatty once introduced but I would never make the first move, and in all honesty I am quite happy in my own company. DH is the total opposite. He talks to anyone and everyone, makes friends with staff, remembers everyone's names, asks about their children and so on. He comes across as a genuine nice guy.

We make friends on every single holiday, but it's me that they keep in touch with/friend on FB etc - because DH just doesn't do the internet. He gives out my details without thinking, and I'm the one that they contact once we are back home!

MabelMarple · 15/03/2026 12:31

We usually go on holiday abroad three times a year and very seldom speak to a single person other than staff.
My worst nightmare would be to go on holiday with a big group of people but I have friends who refuse to go just as a couple and only go in groups.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 15/03/2026 15:27

MabelMarple · 15/03/2026 12:31

We usually go on holiday abroad three times a year and very seldom speak to a single person other than staff.
My worst nightmare would be to go on holiday with a big group of people but I have friends who refuse to go just as a couple and only go in groups.

Oh yes, I have acquaintances and extended family who I see always on holiday in big groups. All their kids hang round together, even down to meal times when they're at one end of the table and the adults are up the other having a drink and chatting amongst themselves. I always think it's a shame as it's the one time you get to spend proper quality time with your own kids and instead they're hardly spending any time with you.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 15/03/2026 15:39

I avoid talking to other people on holiday if possible after a bad experience in Italy years ago when the Soham murders were in the news. I think Ian Huntley was under suspicion or had been arrested or something. It was the type of hotel that had 2 sittings for dinner and you had to sit at big round tables with 2 other couples.

One couple was ok but the other....her husband was really nice but she was a horror. She worked at a further education college like me so you'd think we'd have something in common to talk about. And you think she'd like children and understand the concept of safeguarding etc.

But she started trying to insinuate that the girls weren't all innocent, that they must have been obsessed with Ian Huntley. I could barely contain my anger, was about to ask "What are you implying?" but it was so awkward cos they then brought the food over and the subject got changed when the waiters started talking to us.

There were still a few days of the holiday left but we did our best to avoid them including going out to eat instead.

Never again. I won't go on a cruise or anything now where the only option is to sit with other people. It's not worth the increase in blood pressure. And I don't want to make small talk with some random, I'm there to spend quality time chatting to DH.

I absolutely don't mind chatting to other holidaymakers while I'm at the bar, or on an excursion or something. And on our honeymoon we did once spend a nice hour chatting in our hotel bar to a nice older couple who wanted to buy us a drink (we'd got married there the day before). They were lovely and that was nice. But that seems to be few and far between.

Canyonroadjack · 15/03/2026 15:50

In general, no. I’ve no interest in making polite chit chat on holiday, we go to unwind and spend time together and I would never do any kind of forced table sharing etc. That said, we met an American couple on holiday a few years ago and they were and are, fabulous. Since then we’ve gone on a fair few holidays with them, we speak often and we consider them very good friends. Only time that has happened though!l

Blueunicornthistle · 15/03/2026 15:53

We are both extroverts but go on holiday to spend time with each other not with random strangers.

We choose self catering to ensure peace and quiet.

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