Taking kids friends on holidays

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Can you tell me how you do that?
now my two eldest dont want to come with us, i would like to go away with my “little one” (13yo) and im thinking about bringing a friend. But im not sure how to do that???
id be happy to go for all inclusive but would that be too much money for friend?? Shall i pay for travel and let them pay their own share of accomodation? Or viceversa?
when my child was invited skiing, i only pay the flight, the ski pass, ski rental but not accommodation or food.
or when he goes for short break in devon with friends family, he only pays for train ticket and nothing else (i give plenty of pocket money for fish and chips and entertainment)
so people have been extremely generous with my DC. Shall i do the same (except it will be a different child, no history of being asked for a few days away)
thanks

I generally assume if I'm inviting a child somewhere, then I'm paying for them. That said, I've only invited my niece/nephew places and never on more than a short camping trip, so I may be wrong about the etiquette.

Generally though, I'd say if you invite them you should intend to pay for everything, and anything their parents contribute is a bonus?

Sorry I’m being nosy why aren’t you taking a child that’s previously taken yours on holiday?
I agree with the poster above if expect to pay for everything.

Generally speaking, if you are inviting a child to holiday with you then you cover the costs bar personal spending money

I think it's ok to offer to pay for everything or to only pay for some things, as long as it's really clear right from the beginning so the other child's parents are aware of the cost when they say yes or no.

If you're paying for part of it, it makes sense for you to pay for the accommodation (as you're choosing that) and ask them to pay for travel rather than the other way around.

Generally when friends came on holiday with us we paid for everything bar spending money.

If I were a child ( and parent) who’s taken yours on holiday before I would be very confused why you didn’t offer to return a favour and took a different child instead.
You might have valid reasons but it’s just how it looked outside.

Thank you thats really helpful! Id be happy paying for accommodation and meals myself and ask for parents to pay for travelling cost. It does make sense. Thanks

To answer the question: It would be very difficult for is to return a favour because as a family of 5, it is expensive to go away and it is a lot of logistics. The friends that have invited my DCs are either single children (with single mum) or the only child left in thefamily who still wants to go away with their parents (so 1 child and 2 parents). They needed/wanted a friend to keep them company.
It would be very tricky for us to go away as a family of 5 and then get a friend, or two, or three for our DCs!!

also i am not expecting people to reciprocate everything!! Ive just baked a cake for DS3 and friend because i know thefriend loves that particular type ofcake. Im not sure my DS gets his favourite homemade cake when he goes to that friend’s house! And thats absolutely ok. I enjoy baking and it gives me pleasure to give them pleasure this way.

We pay.

They are loaning us their child for the week/fortnight. Our holiday is better because of their child's presence. So it's part of the cost of our holiday.

Sorry, the impression I got was that you were taking a different friend who’d never taken your child and I was wondering why you wouldn’t choose someone who took your child on holiday.

How much is travel?