Don't want to go on holiday

[PerkyOchrePeer]

I used to like holidays but after coming back from a holiday in̈ june that I didn't like, it's put me off. I didn't like the hotel or the surroundin̈gs and just wanted to go home. Previously I had a holiday i liked. Im very much a home person. Love my home and spend so much time in it surrounded with my own belongings sleeping in my own bed and cooking and eating my own food everything is familiar. I need to get out of this negative mindset because I used to love exploring places

It is one holiday so maybe you just chose wrong place\ accommodation. Or maybe you are now a home bird and don’t wish to travel or this may be a symptom of a wider anxiety around new places. Did you travel alone? Neither is wrong but I would try an alternative before deciding that you no longer wish to leave home. That indicates you are either highly anxious and don’t wish to break from routine or are suffering from some sort of mental health disorder and find breaking outside your comfort zone difficult. If it doesn’t affect anyone else though just do what you want to. I know people who never travel or do new things. I would find that boring but they seem content. You do you.

Firstly I am not anxious. Secondly the place i visited that I wasn't keen on, I went there because I know someone there abd primarily went to see her. Seeing her was nice but when I didn't see her when she was working, I explored the city abd didn't like it. I didn't like my hotel because it was in the middle of nowhere and too big and very expensive to eat there and there were no alternative cheaper eateries nearby. Previously ive stayed in ibis hotels which I love because they are smaller and food is reasonably priced and they are in the city centre so plenty of other places around to eat at. The reason I didn't stay in an ibis in my last holiday was the price. Apparently the cost of bed and breakfast at the alternative hotel was cheaper so I wen̈t there, but didn't look at the location. To be honest I should have gone to the ibisbecause even though b and b was more, I paid more at the cheaper hotel for an expensive meal at the hotel si I virtually ended up paying as much as I would have done for the ibis

You could always not go on holiday. Instead spend time exploring your own area or places within an hour or so of home. Visit all those places you're interested in but not got round to seeing.

Or try an extreme day trip or two. There's loads of places that you can fly to for the day such as Belfast, Dublin, Cork, Paris, Barcelona, Alicante, Berlin, Gdansk, Brussels, Palma, Ibiza etc and come home to your own bed.

Or have your friend come to you next time. Also learn from this experience about researching the location more thoroughly, including the cost and availability of eating out etc. But if your friend is making suggestions that don't work for you, it's fine to say no and choose according to your own preferences.

You don’t have to go on holidays, in fact if I wasn’t reliant on the family getting to see places/ get away from it all I probably wouldn’t bother either, I’d just have a lovely week getting places nearby etc

I think it was more the circumstance than the idea of a holiday in the first place.

Wrong location, not seeing the friend, feeling to chose a hotel knowing it was wrong.

I would just re-start. Do something you normally do and enjoy. Maybe start short, a night a shorter drive away for a day trip, 2 nights in easy reach in Europe where you take back the control of your travel.

I think you could try to reframe the situation. The last holiday has really helped you to clarify what you do and don’t like when you travel. You now know that you much prefer an Ibis hotel in a central location. That’s great. No reason why you can’t just stick to that.

I love a Hampton Inn and will happily only stay in those. I like the security of knowing what I’m getting. I am
also a home body and like my own bed. Nowt wrong with that.

Are you peri menopause age by any chance, as this is a symptom?

Your holiday sounds shit op

prob why you don’t fancy going again

pick better!

Don’t pick hotels “in the middle of
no where”!

So you just made poor choices last time.

However, as you say you like sleeping in your own bed and being surrounded by familiar things and cooking and eating familiar food ( ie. the opposite of a holiday) , what was it about the previous holiday that you liked, that made up for the lack of familiarity?

Agree it was perhaps not a good choice for you, did you take advice from your friend as to what to see and where to go? Holidays are often a gamble, even if returning to same place, you need to forgive your error and look for something more like the original idea. For example more expensive hotels may seem attractive but you felt awkward and out of place so a tourist one suits you better.

My friend doesn’t like holidays, she hasn’t had one for two years and is perfectly happy not to have one booked.
The last few she’s been on she’s said she felt a bit bored. She doesn’t really book excursions, go to shows or concerts, do much sightseeing, go on boat trips etc on holidays and at the same time doesn’t seem to like to have too much chilling time.

Maybe try a shorter holiday in an inexpensive location and then you’d be less worried about the cost of meals etc? Or look at a 4 night all inclusive break with all meals included or an apartment and buy nice food from a local shop or market?

Decent hotel and nice surroundings

No i went through the menopause 15 years ago