Mum guilt

[Mumof2girlies09]

Guys anyone else feel so guilty in the holidays that they can’t afford to take their kids on holiday. I feel such a lowsy mum and the kids are missing out on so much. All their friends go on holiday. I always hear them on group calls with their friends and they always go quiet in the holiday convos

Nope. Because my kids go on holiday each year.

But I feel plenty of mum guilt about other things.

I feel guilty I couldn’t get them into the school we wanted.

I feel guilty we live rurally and on the opposite side of the town to their friends, so no playing out with friends, and only very occasional play dates.

I feel guilty that we live miles away from family so they don’t have much of a relationship with any extended family.

I feel guilty that I work a lot and I am not a good cook and my hopes for us all having healthy diets are not going well.

I feel guilty that I am often very stressed and overwhelmed and can be snappy with them and don’t have as much energy for parenting as I would like.

Honestly, don’t beat yourself up about the holiday thing. There’s always something to feel guilty about and really you’re just doing the best with what you have. We all are.

The only mums who don’t feel guilty about anything will be shit mums who don’t care, or totally perfect mums….or mums who realise they are doing their best and choose not to beat themselves up.

xxx

Nope. Because I do what I can and there is an understanding that different people are able to do different things.

I’ve realised you can break your back bending over to give them a holiday and it still won’t be enough. You scrimp and scrape to take them to say Menorca and their friends will be swimming with dolphins in Dubai

I earn well enough for holidays but feel guilty that I would like to spend more time with them. Considering throwing it in to give them time rather than money

Aah OP, I feel for you.

Please try not to give yourself a hard time. I promise your children can have a wonderful time off school making memories together with you regardless.

You could have a chat with them and make a family bucket list of what you’d all like to do. You could include things like watching a favourite film, trying a new board game, learning a new skill, visiting a new museum or art gallery, going to a local library event, cooking something new, exploring local nature spots. There is so much you can enjoy together which doesn’t have to cost much but will give you time to talk and bond. They will cherish that time.

Also, remember that the Mums of your children’s friends will inevitably be feeling guilty about something else.

Just as @sundaybloodysunday12said, i don’t feel guilt over holidays but feel guilt over a whole load of other things.
I wish i could get to the stage where I accept that I’m doing and have always done my absolute best for my family, and be ok with that.
It would be amazing!

We are in a 5* hotel in Menorca at the moment. It's lovely. I overheard the teenagers in the next apartment whining about how this holiday didn't have as good a 'vibe' as last year's, because they are in a smaller group. I nearly popped my head over the balcony and told them to stop being so ungrateful 😂 (obviously I didn't, I just put my headphones in to block them out).