To offer up the master bedroom to guests?

[ChillEmber]

Sister-in-law who lives out of town asked to stay over at ours with three of her friends whilst we are away for a few days. I am not sure why exactly but I feel odd about someone else sleeping in my bed. We have guest bedrooms with 1 king sized, 1 double bed and a very uncomfortable sofa bed I wouldn't recommend.

I am wondering if it is unreasonable to ask four adult women to share the guest bedrooms amongst themselves?

A small part of me feels it would be the kind thing to offer up my bedroom too but I also can't help but feel like opening my home to them is kind enough! Any honest thoughts?

Frankly, you can't stop them using your bed if you're not there.

Have you already said yes to her and her friends?

Are there enough beds for everyone if they don't use yours?

Just say no

Definitely not unreasonable! Just give them a heads up and if they don't like it they are welcome to book something.

Yes there are four of them and 2 proper beds so it's possible if two people share a bed each.

I said yes they are welcome to stay (which they are!) but I am due to chat to her about keys, alarms, how to use the kitchen hobs etc so I am weighing up talking about the bedrooms too but wanted to sense check it wouldn't be unkind to ask they use the guest bedrooms only before doing so.

Hahah OK thanks!

Just say you have a weird phobia about someone these sleeping in your bed but they are welcomed to the guest room and sofa bed make it clear your room is out of bounds

The thought of anyone i am not intimate with sharing my bed gives me the creeps even if sheets washed at 90 afterwards.

Personally, I’d be generous and let them stay in your bedroom. They’ll appreciate it, you’ll feel good about yourself afterwards and the bed won’t care either way!

They can stay in the guest rooms and leave the place in the clean state they found it. So what that the sofa bed is uncomfortable.

I wouldn't feel good about myself afterwards, I'd feel upset I didn't maintain my boundary.

Say yes and lock your bedroom door? Explain before they come that they will have to share beds.

I wouldn’t allow it. The only other human that’s allowed to use my bed when I’m not there is my eldest (adult) child. Anyone else can jog on.