Annoying mother-in-laws & Rhodes - August

[Zizi444]

My partner has booked us all a week away self catering with his mum. This is purely so he can purse his hobby . To say I'm dreading this is an understatement and he knows how I feel. His mum is super annoying . She talks non stop and is often embarrassing and insulting, drinks loads of wine then talks even more on repeat. She only helps when it suits her but then goes into overdrive - she brought 8 platters of food to my daughters party which would have been amazing if she'd mentioned it as then I wouldn't have spent the whole day needlessly preparing food. I know my frustration with her is exacerbated by me desperately missing my mum who died last year.
I need something to get me through this so i thought I might book another holiday. August is the only time we can go away and I'd really like a week away in the sun which is not self catering and does not involve cooking, food shopping, cleaning or his mother. I've found a lovely hotel which is a bit £££ but is doable. I'm just a bit worried about greece in August and the heat.

Have you thought about saying I’m not going?

I wouldn't go, it was really selfish of him to assume that you want to spend the holiday with MIL.

Even more so that you are grieving your own mother.

Yeah, don't go.

I wouldn't go. He should have asked you before booking. Stay home and have a nice relaxing week catching up on little jobs or exploring the local area. Let him take responsibility for the children and his own mother for that week.

just don't go.

Just laugh in his face and tell him you won't be holidaying with his mum, ever. Set your expectations out now.

He won't book another holiday without asking.

I would be so pissed off with DH if he did this without discussing with me.

Surely he didn't book it without checking with you? If he did then you simply refuse to go, hs mistake!

@Zizi444 who decided your mil was coming??? if it was him then he entertains her, not you. get up in the morning, get kids ready then you go out with kids!! why does he need to go there for a hobby?

Agree: don’t go. A self catering holiday is no holiday at all for the woman who gets stuck with the catering. Even worse if his mother comes. Just refuse and take some money and go somewhere lovely where you can do the things you loved to do with your mum. For me I would go on a city break to a wonderful hotel and do museums and theaters.

Self catering, he'll be off doing a hobby, and you'll be left with the kids & "entertaining" his mother? Which part of this is a holiday for you?

Don't go.

Rhodes in August is bloody hot

What a prince!
He gets to do his hobby.
You get to look after the kids.
You get to look after ( not throttle) his mother.
You get to cook.
You get to clean.
You get to entertain.

..and you are going to dance to this tune?

Tell him to get stuffed.. and take his mummy with him.

Get yourself a nice ferry to Symi from Rhodes by yourself. It’s a beautiful small island!

Rhodes in August will be hotter than the face of the sun and quite probably on fire.

I wouldn't go on either break.

Every relationship is different, but - his booking something without checking with you and getting your explicit OK is horrible. If not going is the only way to get him to understand this, then don't go. If there are children involved, let them go and he looks after them.

Rhodes in August will be hot, but likely not unbearable if you like the heat and sunshine - expect daily highs of 30-35C falling to as low as 21C overnight. Also expect crowds, and the highest prices of the year (as reflected in your expensive-ish lodgings)! It can be humid, but the humidity is cut a little by being surrounded by water.