I think I made a mistake

[Anonymouscaller1994]

I recently went on a holiday to a far away place and invited a friend to come along if i went back, but now I think I made a mistake

We've been talking through mutual friends for about a year and met up a couple of times. She had said she would like to go to the same destination before I left for the holiday and went on about it a lot. When I got back, I said I wanted to go again and in the excitement invited her to come along.

wants from the holiday, she is more interested in theights. She also said she likes to lie in and isn't too interested in sightseeing. I know we are grown-ups and could do our own thing. However, I think i would worry if she was off on her own.

It's a big holiday and would be over 10 days. I'm stuck now as I'm not sure if it would work, but I don't want to lose a friendship even if we aren't that close. I don't know whether to just go and suck it up and go with her or tell her that I feel it's a bad idea and that I don't really feel it's best to go with her.

She's do excited about it keeps going on about it i don't want to break her heart

I'm torn any advice? 🙏

So she wants to go to a faraway location costing £2k for a shag ?

And you're worried about challenging her even before you go away ?

Sounds to me as if you are very poorly suited to holidaying together. You barely know this person - this will be an expensive disaster.

I wouldn’t discuss it, just say you are not able to go with her anymore. You don’t need to justify it!

I wouldn’t agonise over a friendship of someone you’ve only met a couple of times. And chances are that if you do go the friendship will end up ruined anyway.

Is your partner not going with you if you are married? If not I wonder if she expects you to act as if you are single.

Don’t do it. Even if you go with someone you know well, a holiday can really test your friendship.

Ive got a friend I go away with a couple of times each year and we compromise and chat and it works.
However a couple of years ago I went with another friend and it just didn’t work and it’s ruined our friendship

I couldn’t go away with someone who wanted to chase men - it would drive me mental .

This!

Just pull out. Either be honest and explain you're not holiday compatible, or make an excuse to cancel and rebook a different holiday without them.

Why are you worried about "breaking her heart" or for her safety going off alone? If she's a grown adult, she can surely go on holiday to her dream destination with or without an acquaintance she has met a handful of times. If it's a dangerous location to travel to, then she should take precautions of visiting with a tour group rather than alone to hook up with men but again that is not your responsibility.

Do you have some link with the location that means you are well placed to "accompany" her there or is it just some location you have been to once?

I think you are giving this way too much headspace. If you're not compatible travel companions, don't go on holiday together. Or at the very least go on the understanding you will each do your own thing and maybe just travel there together, have a meal or 2 together while there.

Thank you so much.

I'm going to pull out. I've weighed everything and think it's for the best. I really appreciate everyone's thoughts and opinions.

Thank you 🫶🫶🫶