DH has unrealistic expectations with holiday costs

[wonkfish]

DH grew up in a part of the world where the quality of life was very high vs cost of living, he also lived in a low tax country so his family had lots of spare dosh for fancy holidays.

Now that he is in the UK - he doesn't seem to grasp the cost of going away or how much trips to the Maldives or Seychelles actually cost. He'll say we have a budget of ideally under £2,000 a week for a 5* hotel in the Maldives.

Like yes, dream on? Does anyone else have a DP who doesn't get that holidays these days are way more expensive than they used to be?

Surely the solution is for him to be in charge of arranging holidays?

Surely he just has to go online and he’ll be corrected pretty quickly?

Tell him to go and find one?

Just show him?

If that budget is £2k pp and you go in low season, I'm sure you'll find something.

But that's probably not what you're after is it?

Like a PP says, just let him go online and find out for himself but make sure you sense check whatever he finds before committing or else you might find that he's booked to go in rainy season and fly with ridiculous stopovers so it takes 2 days to get there.

Slightly- DHs opinion is stuck in the past and prices have risen but I show him the costs and say well this is how much flights to South Africa cost, if you want to go in the time we both have off work that’s the price or for the budget you suggested we can do XX instead.

If he can find one for that price, please tell him to share it with us as we're obviously doing something wrong 😆

Ask him where he's finding these holidays and tell him to book it asap!

There’s one way he will find out the reality, as above, let him book it himself. Don’t be turning yourself inside out trying to please him, you are setting yourself up. Good luck,

It would take him all of 5 minutes on google to see that he is deluded

Think you would struggle with that budget in Cornwall if you go in school holidays! Holidays have become super expensive.

Let him arrange the family holidays. Problem solved.

What's the problem, just show him what the costs would actually work out to.

Tell him that’s lovely dear, here’s the website for Butlins / Centre Parcs / Haven. (All of which are absolutely fine btw, we’re going to Haven in August ourselves but £2000 for a week for a family is about the right mark for that sort of holiday)!

My husband's the same. He doesn't think anything apart from himself is worth the price. So he can't compute that someone would charge £100 a night for their airbnb. As they aren't worthy

How much does he charge for himself?

My husband has a massive ego and so he probably does know his hourly rate!!