Christmas alone with my dog

[Deedr]

Am I weird for wanting to spend Christmas away with my dog alone?
I have no friends really as I learned a few years back to stand on my own two feet instead of keeping using friends around. Thinking back I don’t think I’ve ever had real friends who didn’t use me and let me down. Maybe I’m just a pushover who accepted bad behaviour.
i have been married for 25 years to an unloving husband who sides with my 24 yr old son all the time. So again maybe I allow the bad behaviour to continue anyway I want to take my furry best friend away to the Lake District all over Christmas and am excited about this. I love my dog so much and he loves me

Sounds lovely but maybe in the New Year you could consider making just you and the dog a permanent thing, not just for Christmas?

Your husband sounds like a man-child who wants to be liked by his kid rather than being a parent. It's called "triangulation" when one parent pulls against the other with the kid/s. It's abusive as hell, and I would start naming that to them both. Also, your son is being modelled how relationships work right now, so maybe tell him how you feel, and that it's not a good way to do things: that you and his Dad should be on the same page, or that you should discuss things as a family unit. Ousting you is bullying, there is no other word for it, and bullies rarely change without a shit-ton of therapy, so get that husband into therapy or the whole family into therapy, or seriously consider your worth in this dynamic and if you want to continue like this?

@woebetide8 they are both the same as each other, abusive, selfish and no respect.
all I have done is throw so called friends to the wayside and replaced them by abusive family members

@Hoppinggreen I think so too

Good Luck
Hopefully you will come back on MN if you need support when you make those changes

If your husband is the controlling, bullying nightmare that you say, kids always people-please to the abusive parent because that is the safest route. It does not mean that your son agrees with how his father treats you; he's probably subconsciously too scared to go against him. I'd be tempted to go away with your son and the dog and leave the husband at home! I wonder if your boy is completely different away from that influence?

It sounds perfect OP !

I agree go and then look to make it permanent.

You deserve better

You deserve better. But for this year if it means you and your dug away from it all do it!!

I ditched my unpleasant, cheating husband a few years ago. That first Christmas I stayed at home alone with my dog and it was bliss. No hassle, no stress, no nastiness, just peace and harmony. I ate what I wanted, my dog and I snuggled up and watched films. Do it op.

@woebetide8 my son is 24 and probably too late for change. We also have his girlfriend living with us. The way he treats me is not like you would expect your child to treat his mum .I often feel that I need to run away. I now feel like a right wimp.

Listen to those feelings, they are real.

Sounds blissful op, go for it, they int he new year really think about separating and starting a new life, I think after time you’d be Able to build a more positive relationship with your son too

Son is acting very bold for a man that still lives with his mummy and daddy.

Do it! Then make it permanent in the new year.