Would you invite single friend on holiday?

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Two couples are renting a 3 bed villa. We have a mutual friend who’s single.

Would you invite them? Would you go on holiday with two couples?

I've been single for 10 years. I'd love it if my coupled friends invited me with them.

I think it's lovely.

Being single doesn’t stop people from having friends who are couples and being happy to spend time with them. So yes, of course.

Absolutely if they all get on and have spent a lot of time together previously since she’s been single.

Who are you in this scenario?

I’m not even sure why it’s a question.
of you all enjoy each other company, then go for it!

I am in one of the couples. My concerns are:

1. would single friend feel weird holidaying with couples
2. would single friend ask to bring a friend along - I’d rather not holiday with a stranger

If your single friend feels weird, they’ll decline. You can’t decide for them if they will or not feel uncomfortable about the step up

When you invite them, make it clear it’s just them. And if they ask about a friend (I imagine you are worried about someone you don’t know or like), then say NO

Im wondering if you shouldn’t avoid inviting them though. You seem to be uncomfortable about the whole idea in the first place

Why not? I find it really bizarre that people might treat friends differently depending on their relationship status.

1. I never did
2. Are you the type of couples who will monopolise the conversation by talking only about couple-y things and how life / the dynamic is different between couples and singles? If no, then you’ll be fine!

What a bizarre question, if you want to invite your friend just ask her. Why does it matter if she is single?

Or is OP worried about her single friend spending too much time with the husbands?

Please do!
I've not been invited to even a dinner party since my divorce. It's defaulted to female only events.
Your friend can always decline the invite.

Invite them along and if they mention bringing someone else just be honest and say you only want to be with people you know and the invite is just for her. She can then take it or leave it.

Depends on how you spend time on holiday. We often go away with another couple ,each couple usually go and do their own thing in the day, cos I want to spend time with DH, then we all catch up in the evening and eat together. I can see that would be more tricky with a single friend.
but if you all hang out together most of the time, then of course.

Well, I’m sure she’d consider it unless you specifically tell her it’s a ‘couples holiday’ in the sense of nightly foursomes or partner-swapping…?

How will you split accommodation costs — per bedroom or per person?

Yes, but make it clear (even if this was a new couple you are inviting to join you) what the usual routine is. If you are expecting independence and just meeting up for evening meal, say so. If you are expecting group activities where you all go together, say so. If you are just planning on spending your days by the pool but are happy for others to go off and do their own thing, say so.

Yes

Well my BFF is single and while we've never gone on holiday with loads of couples, it wouldn't even occur to me to not invite her to an event like this. Bizarre that it would be even an issue.

Of course, ifyou're the type of couples who have to be joined at the hip all the time, relentless PDAs etc, she might not want to come. But that doesn't mean you can't invite her.

Yes but also be up front about how you expect Villa costs to be split. Is it split between 5 of you or by the three rooms or otherwise?

Don't suddenly throw on her she is expected to pay one third of the villa rent.

As a single 38 y/o - yes! Almost all of my friends are married or in relationships and it’s hard sometimes not being invited to things.