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Anxious traveller - first family holiday abroad

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britespark1 · 06/09/2024 21:14

We (DH and I plus 3 DC ages 13,12 and 11) are due to fly to Portugal from Birmingham for our first family holiday abroad in October half term. Any general tips for a very nervous traveller please? I have flown before but it was a lifetime ago and my nerves are already through the roof. disclaimer, middle DC is on the spectrum but absolutely hates any sort of public reference to it

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JDob · 06/09/2024 21:20

It's OK flying. Just check no liquids in hand luggage of kids. Expensive to buy food on plane so buy to take onboard. No nuts though. Take ear plugs if you don't like the noise, try and sleep on plane if it bothers you.

AnOldCynic · 06/09/2024 21:24

Try and find out in advance where the quieter areas are in the airport once you've gone through security.

I don't know Birmingham but know that if I move towards the gate areas from the main cafe seating areas at my local airport there are much quieter areas to sit and wait. Not so overwhelming for your middle one.

AnOldCynic · 06/09/2024 21:26

Also, don't take hold luggage if you can help it. I flew on a package type flight this summer and the queue was huge for hold luggage.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 06/09/2024 21:29

AnOldCynic · 06/09/2024 21:26

Also, don't take hold luggage if you can help it. I flew on a package type flight this summer and the queue was huge for hold luggage.

We flew Jet2 last year and the experience was totally opposite. More staff manning check in than people in the queue (busy SE airport at peak). Outstanding service. So it is I think worth getting feedback on a specific airline and airport(s)?

lightsandtunnels · 06/09/2024 21:29

If you have the budget, I'd recommend booking a lounge and speedy security pass. Well worth the money IMO especially with kids (and my DH who bloody hates airports and waiting around/queues etc.) Food is all help yourself along with drinks so kids (and you) can chill.
Check in online the day before and just use bag drop to save waiting in lengthy queues, if you can (depends on your airline though of course.)

britespark1 · 06/09/2024 21:33

Thank you all very much for your suggestions. Honestly, every tip is appreciated.

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 06/09/2024 21:41

Fast track is definitely worth it as a stress reliever.

Portugal is glorious but sea might be chilly by Oct so short wetsuits might be a good investment?

Natas de pateis / Pasteis de Nata / Portuguese custard tarts - find a local spot that sells them and get ready to forget about your worries!

Everyone speaks English but and effort with some basic Portuguese always goes down well and many words are almost the same in Spanish apart from Obrigado - thank you

Make sure you have all the uniform coats etc for winter term!

Have an amazing time and leave some space for local pottery!

britespark1 · 06/09/2024 22:37

thank you! I do want to enjoy this and the thought of custard tarts helps! I have some time before we can so can brush up on Portuguese basics too.

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BettyBardMacDonald · 06/09/2024 23:09

Are you a fearful flyer?

Just remember you are flying aboard a magnificent miracle of human engineering. In a highly regulated industry, with pilots who want a safe flight as much as you do.

Planes are built to "want" to fly under conditions that are far more extreme than anything you are likely to encounter. You have a higher likelihood of winning a lotto or racing in the Grand National than of having a problematic flight.

Enjoy!

samarrange · 07/09/2024 00:41

>>I have some time before we can so can brush up on Portuguese basics too.
Don't worry too much about learning any Portuguese, at least for speaking. Maybe "Obrigado" or "Olá, fala inglês?", but anything else invites a response, and if by some chance they do respond in Portuguese to what you managed to ask them, realistically you won't have a chance of understanding that reply, so then it's back to English and you've just cost everyone some valuable time. Also, people in Portugal speak good English and have a much easier accent to understand than say Spanish people. It's more important to speak clearly in English and maybe use a couple more words than usual, e.g. "We would like two more beers please" rather than "Two more, pal". And "Hallo, do you speak English?"

If you're going to study any Portuguese, try learning some signs and other things that you might see, or perhaps menu items --- although most of the time you will be seeing menus in English, but sometimes the translation can be spectacular. Learning some names of dishes can be helpful.

Portuguese food can be surprisingly plain by Mediterranean standards (OK, it's not on the Mediterranean), which can be an advantage with children. I tend to eat pork rather than beef (which often isn't great). There are lots of soups. A nice plain-ish one is canja, which is chicken broth with rice (plus whatever the cook wants to add today).

What kind of transfer have you got arranged from the airport to your accommodation?

britespark1 · 07/09/2024 09:32

Thank you so much! We have got a car hired as DH said he was happy to drive. Because of the time of year we are going some of the more touristy things aren’t open so we wanted to be able to drive further afield if we had to.

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hellswelshy · 07/09/2024 12:05

I second taking your own snacks/food as airport food is a bit samey and expensive. I'll add to that refillable water bottles. Download podcasts or audio books or films for the plane. When in Portugal, depending on where you are staying, I recommend Zoomarine for a fun day out, we've been twice. Food is varied so you'll find lots to suit you all. Beaches are stunning but sea is chilly! Enjoy yourselves, Portugal is beautiful- it's my happy place.

Sidebeforeself · 07/09/2024 12:20

When I’m anxious on holiday I say this to myself ( amend as appropriate!)
”I know I don’t like xxxx, but it means that today/tomorrow Im going to see something I have never seen before” .. I don’t know why but it calms my mind, and makes me focus on the adventure not the bit Im worried about!

MontyVerdi · 07/09/2024 12:33

Definitely focus on the adventure. I'm exactly the same but am travelling on a half term trip to London which is a flight away for us. Ds has never been to the British Museum.

Try reading Captain Allright from BA: Flying with Confidence: The proven programme to fix your flying fears amzn.eu/d/hTlS36T

I'm not a good traveller but on occasions family life sometimes calls for intrepid!

You'll be fine 💐

SeaToSki · 07/09/2024 12:44

I like taking print outs of all my bookings and reservations. Then the night before I put the papers for the next day in my handbag. That way Im not scrolling on my phone feeling hassled with maybe no service when Im trying to check in or find the exact address for something

At the airport keep it as simple as possible.

Make sure the dc know that if they pack it, they HAVE to carry it.

Wear clothes with as few metal parts as possible / not belt and empty your pockets before security so you dont set off the metal detector

Tell the dc there is a prize for whoever can get through the security clearance without setting off the metal detector or getting their bag pulled for secondary screening (they have left a liquid in it, usually). And they have to research the rules for the airports you are going through, both going out and coming back.

Make sure you do a bag count everytime before you move off at the airport (its easiest if everyone always ‘owns’ the same bag even if it has joint stuff in it. Loads of bags get left somewhere in the airport because eveyone thought someone else was carrying it.

Dont pack too much into each day. A holiday needs to be relaxing as well as fun

Take some emergency snacks and refillable water bottles

Goonergirl14 · 07/09/2024 16:00

We went to Portugal in July, one of my DC's has asd and despite this being our second holiday abroad I was very nervous but it went better than expected. We went with Jet2 and had special assistance, Faro Airport is fab, we were escorted through security and to the gate. Take games such as uno on to the plane if your child likes these sorts of things, our flight going out was delayed and this helped calm him. Also going through security on the way out we took a plastic bag and put all electrical such as switches/phones in it to save rummaging through our backpacks for them! Portugal is beautiful, people are so welcoming, can be a bit breezy, we needed our jumpers a couple of times at night. Lots to do there, zoomarine is amazing!

britespark1 · 07/09/2024 17:05

Just to say thank you all again, really appreciate all of the replies.

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Jellyslothbridge · 07/09/2024 17:26

I know you said you middle child doesn't want to have added attention but you may find having a sunflower lanyard useful at the airport as staff will know what they mean and be more helpful/tolerant

britespark1 · 07/09/2024 18:50

I do keep thinking about it but I really don’t think he would wear one.

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britespark1 · 10/10/2024 10:03

Another question now it's getting closer and I'm really getting antsy! Slight change of plan as no longer hiring a car but instead have pre-booked a private transfer. Our flight lands mid morning and we cannot check in to the villa until 4pm. What are we supposed to do for several hours? Obviously 5 people with 5 suitcases can't just wander about and I don't know what to do........Kill time at the airport?

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hellswelshy · 10/10/2024 10:24

Hi Op, have you contacted the owner to explain? Often the owners are happy for you to drop bags off or check in a bit earlier if needed. We have done this before, dropped off luggage and made use of nearby facilities or gone to the beach. Is it a private rental or a complex with lots of properties?

britespark1 · 10/10/2024 10:37

It's booked through Jet2 so I have asked them to contact the owner and ask if we can just drop off the suitcases early but no response yet. Private rental I think.

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 10/10/2024 10:46

AnOldCynic · 06/09/2024 21:26

Also, don't take hold luggage if you can help it. I flew on a package type flight this summer and the queue was huge for hold luggage.

In my experience bag drops are pretty quick. Just make sure that you have checked in online - we do this as soon as we get the email telling us that it's open.

I would recommend allowing yourself plenty of time at the airport though - they are still doing work on the airport at Birmingham. Security was pretty quick to actually get through - but there were quite long queues when we flew a couple of weeks ago.

I understand what you are saying about your DC being unhappy with the sunflower lanyard - but if you are able to either pay for fast track or request this due to your DC's ASD it would probably improve the airport experience for all of you. I've a couple of friends who have done this due to their respective DC and they have said how helpful the airport staff were and how easy the fast track service was.

Security - new rules. You still have to only have the small liquids bottles (max 100 ml) but you no longer have to remove them from your luggage. Same with laptops/ipads etc. There is a new body scanner thing so they are asking people to remove hoodies and shirts if they are not tight fighting. We found this a lot quicker than when we last flew in April.

Who are you flying with? There is now a separate area past security for flights with gates 1-20 something which is a lot quieter. I think it may be for Jet2 but I'm not sure on that.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 10/10/2024 10:48

Where are you staying in Portugal ?