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Housesitter drama

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OwlandFox · 04/09/2024 08:54

I would be very grateful for some advice on using house sitters. We have just returned from a two week holiday and used house sitters for the first time to take care of our dog and cat. We were a bit stuck for pet care because our usual places were not available so we ended up having to give housesitting a go. Our usual dog walker recommended his sister and neice and said that they do this often. We met both the mother and daughter, who seemed nice, and it was agreed that either one of them or both would stay each night. Just before the holiday we were asked if it would be ok for a 15 year old friend to sit with the pets for a few hours one day as both the mother and daughter were working. We agreed to this.
The drama is that we looked at the camera footage from our driveway and became aware that a man stayed with the daughter for the whole second week. We were never told about this man and feel upset that we were not asked if it would be ok for him to housesit. We can see that he was left alone in our house for up to 3 hours on one occassion.
We have now raised our concerns with the sitters and they have completely dismissed our concerns. They have said that the boyfriends of both women often sit with them. They consider these men to be part of their "team" and it never occured to them to tells us. Is this OK?
We are upset about this and feel that our trust and privacy have been violated.
The timing is bad as my mother died just before the holiday. They are aware of this (because it meant them staying one extra night for me to go home to Ireland plan the funeral) but have offered no condolances.
To add insult to injury, we decided to just pay them and move on from this experience. They payment was a verbal agreement. We understood that payment would be per night but they have come back asking for an extra payment because they understood it to be payment by the day.
Is it usual to pay per day or night?
Any advice welcome.

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lucya66 · 04/09/2024 09:02

sorry to hear that. Next time, could you clarify with the sitters if they will have other guests. Make it clear you have cameras so they know they can’t fib.

I personally wouldn’t care too much if there was a man there. It’s a bit awkward having anyone in your house, I get, but it wouldn’t make much difference to me. Can you share more on why you feel violated? Or could you try to reframe this in your mind so you feel less violated?

re the payment, again just chalk it up to experience and move on. Often our dog kennels charge per day, not night.

Untrained · 04/09/2024 10:31

I house-sit - never in a million years would I invite a friend (male or female!) to the house I'm looking after - not even for a cup of tea, never mind overnight/instead of me/without me etc - its not my house! With regard payment - they should have agreed an amount initially, is the extra payment for the extra night they did? Otherwise they shouldn't come back to you for more than what was agreed and I think you have some re-course in saying they had people in your house you hadn't agreed to.
I think you've been unlucky - very unprofessional behaviour on their part. House-sitting/pet-sitting etc is a massive responsibility and I don't blame you for feeling the way you do.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 04/09/2024 10:36

This is why you should always have any contract where money changes hands in writing, even if it is just an email.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 04/09/2024 10:43

Unfortunately next time you will need to use a professional agency that specialises in this business, Animal Aunts are one I believe.

DeCaray · 04/09/2024 10:51

Very unprofessional but nothing you can do without a proper contract.

notatinydancer · 04/09/2024 15:14

There's an Agency called Trusted Housesitters.
Friends use them regularly. Very good

imforeverblowingbuttons · 04/09/2024 18:31

Ours charges per day. If you pick up before 12 it's half fee.

OwlandFox · 05/09/2024 10:33

Thank you all for your helpful responses. We have paid the housesitters now and will chalk this up as a useful learning experience.

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