Ex wants to take child abroad

[Wanda1one]

Just that really.
My ex husband (married 12 years - he ended it) want to take our 10yr old abroad with his 'new family'. This will be her first trip abroad.
We have always had an amicable relationship for sake of child. I don't want to cause any problems and also don't want to stand in way of my childs experiences. I am sad that I would miss the 'firsts' the first time in a plane etc. I also feel I would find the distance hard. They have holidayed together but only in UK. I don't know how to manage my own feelings about this and just looking for some one who may have experienced the same situation and how you handled it. Please be kind thank you.

This isn't about you op, it's about your dc.

Let her go, enjoy herself, DON'T let her see any of your reservations.

(My ex refused consent for me to take the DC on their first abroad holiday. I took him to court and the judge gave me permission straight away. It's really not worth refusing - she's going to have a fantastic time)

I am sad that I would miss the 'firsts' the first time in a plane etc
I only ever see this on MN, she's 10, not a baby, let her go don't be the ex who caused issues.

Honestly, I don't think seeing her fly for the first time is a big milestone. I flew alone for the first time aged 11. First time I flew I was 7 though and it wasn't with either parent.

I'd ask your ex to take some video's / pics and send them to you.

I understand what you are saying about managing your own feelings, it is difficult. Would he consent to letting you know what flights they are on and where they are staying and letting you know when they get there etc which may help your concerns and are not unreasonable for a parent to know?