Annoyed at myself

[EmotionalMumma]

Hi All!
Am I just carrying on the emotion/eating cycle?! Is this my next excuse?!

I'm feeling so annoyed at myself. We go away in just under 2 weeks. We've had a very interesting and emotional 2 years and I have basically eaten my feelings...I tried on holiday clothes today and dispite my DH best efforts I still just feel urgh!

I've never had the best body image but about 3 years ago I lost 3 stone and felt great for it. Over the last 18months I've gained a stone back, and whilst I'm still 2 stone down I feel bigger than ever.

I'm just so annoyed I let the emotions get the better of me and my eating. I want to be the best mum to my DD....but I feel annoyed at myself and I know I'm going to feel very self conscious on holiday. I try to convince myself that it's not the end of the world and have a who cares attitude....but the reality is I care haha. Do you think I'm just a bit stuck in the loop of emotional eating......maybe someone has some ideas to help me get over all the self loathing?! I know what I need to do to lose weight but that's not going to happen in 2 weeks and I get that so I guess I need to change my perspective and that's what I'm struggling with...

You can still loose a bit of weight in two weeks if you stick to protein, cut down sugar, carbs, alcohol. Start the day with a good protein breakfast.

Otherwise there is not a lot you can do but trying to relax and enjoy your holiday, be kind to yourself.

Having a toddler is hard. It takes a lot self control to keep a healthy weight when you have a lot going on and there is so
much temptation around.

If you have a serious eating disorder, maybe try meditation, yoga, therapy. I listen to the mindful movement meditations in YouTube when I am stress ir anxious

For a start, if you have only put back on some of the weight you have previously lost them you may feel "big'' but you clearly are not as big as you were before you lost the weight, so take that as a win!

I think holidays can highlight all sorts of things we haven't been on top of for a while. It's not too late to lose a little bit more before you go away but you need to decide how much you care. Have you been happy being the size you are up until now or has life got in the way of you being able to prioritise your eating and exercise?

But those are questions for you to address when you get back from your lovely holiday OP. I don't want to make you feel bad or "trump" your feelings but I have a terminal cancer diagnosis and would do anything to be able to go on holiday abroad again with my now teenage sons. I look back at our holiday photos and now I don't care what I looked like, I'm just glad we had those fun times together.

Even if you had never lost any weight, even if you were 25 stone, you would still deserve to have a lovely holiday and you would still be a great Mum to your child. You deserve happiness and love and joy no matter what your size or shape.

So have a think about what you would like from this holiday - what you want your memories to be. Do you want to spend all the time comparing yourself to other people who may be smaller than you or do you want to enjoy some rest and leisure with the people who you love?

When that self loathing inner critical voice starts in your head, can you try and think how you would feel about saying those things out loud to someone else - to your daughter? You would never talk to anyone else like that so please don't talk to yourself like that. Don't hold yourself to a ridiculous standard that you wouldn't expect from anyone else.

Your self love isn't conditional on how fat or thin you are - please treat yourself with the kindness, compassion and understanding that you extend to others. Wear clothes that fit, that make you happy, and enjoy a well earned break.