Are teens, 14 and 16, safe in separate hotel room

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We are hoping to go to Lanzarotte next year.

The hotel we like has 2 hotel rooms, they may not be beside each other. We have 2 teen girls.

Did you find it hard to keep track of the family in 2 rooms, would teens leave the room and not mention it?

Generally we go walking in the morning, sir out in the afternoon or relax in the room. We let the teens off themselves for part of the day as long as we are in contact. We all eat the dinner at the hotel and stay together for the evening.

I am also afraid soneone may watch the room, knowing 2 teens are alone break in and assault them.

I would say yes.
We had my girls in a separate room to us at younger age at 15&10 in France.

You could use a door stop on the inside of the door if you're worried about someone breaking in.

Mine go in a separate room at younger than that

They’ll be fine.

They will be absolutely fine although if you book the Volcan they have interconnecting rooms.

Ours have been on school trips abroad from 13 where they stayed in hotel/ hostel rooms without an adult in the room so I’d definitely say yes

My DS and I were in different hotel rooms at around ages10&17. My DPs were in the room next door. We were fine. And if I had two DCs around that age I would, however my ex wouldn't let his kids 9-16 stay in a separate room, so it all depends.

Just check with the hotel- we were going to split the rooms like that and the hotel had a rule every room had to have an over 18

They all say this on paper but in practice most families would split adults and teens.

We have done but I always feel nervous about it and mine are a boy and girl. I phone them from our room to check they’ve locked the door from the inside but then I worry about fire.

would teens leave the room and not mention it?

Only you can answer that. Personally I wouldn't have worried when DC were that age but it will depend on their degree of independence. You could treat the holiday as a "Step up in responsibility" moment, maybe.

It's more logical to worry about a fire than some random man entering the room.

My teenagers are perfectly capable of sleeping through a smoke alarm going off.

Well, only you know your teens.

As a generalisation though, yes, most teens would be fine in this situation.

As above - I can say that my sister and I at exactly 14 and 16 went on holiday with my dad (an apartment with separate rooms) and we Definitely snuck out after dad had gone bed... 🙈

We did this when DD was 15 (single child). We had rules like phone always on, not opening the doors unless for us and texting where she was if she left the room.

It worked really well, she has ASD and prefers to have a space without us to retreat if necessary.

We normally book a double room adult + child and one room for one adult and then mix when we are there. It never caused a problem.

Would you prefer to hire a villa instead

I have a 15 year old and 13 year old and personally not for me.
not that I would worry so much about trusting them but would worry about other people and who was watching. I wouldn’t be able to relax so would spoil it for me.
We are a family of 5 and get a family room or apartment type room.

We have done this the last 3 years since dds were 14. It's been absolutely fine. I get your worry about it, I'm the same but honestly it's fine, especially if your rooms are next to each other. They love the freedom and its good for everyone to have space. Mine bickered between themselves but that would happen if they were in with us too!

My solo ASD 14yo teen ended up in a different hotel room than us at one point. It was a last minute thing when we had to evacuate our house in an emergency. Hotel rooms were in short supply. For allergy reasons, I can only share with dd if we have time to prepare. She and her dad, my DH, were adamant they were not sharing. So DH and I ended up in one room and she was next door. At least she was next door, but it made me really nervous.

Honestly, it was fine. She made a huge mess with her things over the course of the week, but that is because DH did a horrible job supervising and I couldn’t really go in her room because of my allergies. It didn’t help that we were living with what we could grab as we ran out of the house plus what we bought along the way.

I've been booking a seperate room since my son was 4 months

Everyone gets a good sleep then. Otherwise I wake up to every single grunt in his sleep.

Sorry that of course means I had interconnecting room 😂
I understand your worry about someone breaking in. Can you get an interconnecting room?

We've been getting airbnbs simply because we now need two rooms.

@Ponderingwindow I am now desperately trying to work out what you are allergic to!

*separate

I have found an apartment type accomodation in a hotel gor is all.The girls are still a bit immature and checking in on them all the time would ruin the holiday.

Thanks for all the replies.