Do I need a letter of permission to travel with dd, without her dad - my ex?

[lilybubble]

I'm going to Paris tomorrow morning, with dd (4) and my mum, and without her dad, who I'm still married to but separated from. He knows, and is fine about it, but I'm having a last minute panic that I might need a letter of permission from him. Does anybody have any experience about this or any opinions?

Thanks!

Why would you need a letter of permission, esp since you are married to her father? Your dd will have her own passport which is all you need .

not unless you had to, a court order or something.

I'm just being paranoid I think, just don't want holiday to be spoiled. Just got a funny feeling that I might need one and can't shake it

No, no court order, no formal arrangement over custody.....

Are you in the process of divorcing from her dad? If so, get written permission.

A friend did this and the father called the police saying she 'abducted' the kid. She is in big trouble. Her ex-H will probably get sole custody of their DD.

The dad knew about the travel in advance and had agreed verbally, just like in your case, by the way.

As long as she has a passport, and her dad is fine about it, I can't see why it would be a problem....

I hope you have a wonderful time.

CDA That's awful! Now I'm getting worried!! Might call him and see what we can arrange.... I don't think he'd do that - but I didn't think he'd walk out either, so.....

I take 5 abroad all the time and their father would never object. Lots of married mothers take children on holiday all over the world without letters because the husband has to work. But if he might alert the air ports and ports etc then yet get permission and I think after divorce technically you need permission from the other parent although I've never sought it.

Lily - Sorry to scare you, but the stakes are just too high and it's better to protect yourself.

Have called him, but no answer.... will keep trying!

if he is fine about it why would there be a problem? unless he is afraid you will leave the country and not return, in which he would have to go to court, there is no problem.
cotedazur, your comment is totally ott if theres no problem with the father.

"if he is fine about it why would there be a problem

Because this is a way he can get the upper hand in the divorce, especially re custody of their DD.

This actually happened. Before the divorce was finalized a custody ruling was passed, my friend took her DD (~ 1 yr old) to another country, totally with the knowledge and approval of her ex-H. He called police, said she abducted DD. She was jailed for a while. Divorce is still not final but she doesn't have a hope of getting custody now and her lawyer has said her ex-H will probably get full custody.

"your comment is totally ott if theres no problem with the father. "

I hope you never live to see how wrong you are on this.