Leaving ds for a holiday

[jofeb04]

Hiya all,
Just after some advice. My and dh are looking at going on holiday over our aniversery break, for about 4 or 5 nights, but not to sure yet!!
My dh wants us to go away on ouw own and leave ds (who will be 15 months at the time) with my mil (dh wants a week away!). Mil is more than willing to have our ds. Im very nervous about leaving ds for this length of time, just in case(!). What would u do in our circumstances?
Thanks in advance

I left dd1 when she was 2 to go away for five nights, and dd2 when she was 2 for three nights. No ill effects felt (they did stay with gps who they are very close to), but much more clingy when we got back.

and mine always look ( well the older tow when I went away)( Like htey havent slept or eaten a vegetable for three years!

Coddy!

I agree with Coddy and gdg(?). I leave dd (15 months ) when I have to go to work for 3 days with dh and she is very clingy and I'm sure it's because of this. I know she would suffer tremendously if I left for more than a day.

So, no I wouldnt go.

I might do that Coddy - sort of wean myself off them - ha ha. Right, bearcubs, pack yer bags, get your sleeping bag, off to Nanny & Grandad's you go.

I've never left my ds for longer than one night, BUT friends of ours did go away for ten days long haul without their three year old, and he certainly seems unscathed to me. Grandparents moved into their house so environment stayed the same, he went to nursery as usual and seemed happy when I saw him about. I think my ds would find it harder though - it's a personality thing. And I couldn't bear it!! But I would love a two night break somewhere like Paris or even in a nice hotel here. I know ds would be happy with his worshipped grandma, but she works odd hours and can't ever seem to do two nights. Sigh. Anyway with no2 on the way, I don't suppose this will happen for years and years now.

We've been away just about once a year without the children since the youngest was 2 (only for a week maximum- first 2 trips were 3-4 days). I can't see the problem. We've always had to work shifts around the children, so we are never together as a family or as a couple because one of us is either at work or asleep. We felt we needed a break as a couple to keep our marriage together (& it's worked- married over 21 years, despite an awful lot of downs & few ups).

The children never miss us & always have a wonderful time with the grandparents. We always had a family holiday in a caravan later in the year, so they didn't miss out.

My eldest actually asked to go away with my parents & grandparents to France when she was 3.5 for three weeks ! She had a wonderful time & was always "too busy" to speak to us when they rang home. (She heard they were going & invited herself... mum told her how long it was for & said wouldn't she miss mummy.. no she insisted on going)

I didn't add to my earlier threads that we do all go away together as well!

We left my dd for a week when she was 11 months. It was our honeymoon! We went long haul. Whilst it was not dreadful leaving her we did miss her terribly and must have looked like complete weirdos paying far too much attention to other people's children!

If she'd been a year older I guess we would have taken her with us. It was more the fact it was a longhaul flight and not the fact it was our honeymoon why we didn't take her. She was fine with my parents as we live nearby and she is very used to them but when we got back she was more clingy towards us for a week or so.

I would not leave her for that long again until she is older and even then I might not because I miss her and enjoy doing things as a family. I would do it for a short time (3 nights?)for a special occasion though