Friend charging

[Ladylearningtogowiththeflow]

My Friend and I who used to be close, our children to, moved back home to serious a few years ago. We kept in touch lightly over the years and have decided it would be good for me and my daughter to visit them for a week. My friend owns an air b n b and is charging me to stay there at a discounted rate. It kind of put me off going, granted that I’d be going to see her and her family and this doesn’t feel right as we are her guests. It’s set me right with where we are as friends as I wouldn’t charge her but what are other people’s thoughts? I’m probably not going to go ahead with the trip due to this….

You pay. If roles
Were
Reversed would you pay for a hire for to come and visit you?

My in-laws own a cottage in a popular tourist area. We pay cleaning fee, gas, electricity. Amounts to about £200 . They rent it for £800.

Would you do work for her if it was going to cost you?

Pay your way OP. She is losing custom because of you. It's cheeky to expect it for free. She has bills to pay. Giving it at a discount is doing you a favour.

If you invited yourself then you should def expect to pay.
If you're not that close now why would you expect to not pay?

If she invited you then it's very different.

It's hard to say without more info.

Why don't you just invite them to stay with you instead? Catch up that way.

Who decided? Are you going during holiday season? Are you using her for a free holiday?

could you book somewhere close by and visit them that way?

you say you wouldn't charge them, do you have an air bnb? It's a business they can't just give it away.

We used to have a holiday place and it was amazing how many friends and family expected it for free "because we were paying for the upkeep of it was empty or not". Cheeky fuckers they were.

Personally, I would book into a B&B or Hotel for a couple of nights. It is often cheaper!

Guests are like fish they go off after 3 days.

Go enjoy your friend's company, be independent. Have fun

She has an air bnb for paying guests. If you are occupying it, she can't make income from anyone else, so yes, of course you should bloody well pay her the income she's missing out on.

How spoiled and selfish are you?

Yes, I've stayed at my uncle's place and I've paid the cleaning, laundering fee and also a proportion for the service charge. It's not much in comparison to full price so I don't mind.

I run a business which a lot of my friends come to. I charge them full rate. Why? Because whilst it's lovely to see them there I'm thankfully fully booked most weeks and it's my income. So I'm not going to give them a reduced rate when they are choosing to come, and I've got a waiting list wanting to pay full price.

So you thought you were going to get a week away for free?

Agree with most of the posts you are a CF for expecting it for free- it’s her liveliehood. And sounds like you are only an acquaintance now.

having been on the receiving end of visitors (mostly family) who stay for weeks it’s draining both emotionally and financially- meals, cleaning and how many people can’t bring their own booze!

Your not a guest in her home though your a guest in her air bnb where she will still have to pay cleaning fees, bills etc. You say you used to be close but only lightly keep in touch. Imagine how much income she would loose if she let all her friends and old friends stay for free. You are massively cheeky to expect it for free and it’s quite rude if you were to not offer payment. If you don’t go due to having to pay your way that just says you care more about a free ride than actually seeing your friend

Well, you have had your arse handed to you here @Ladylearningtogowiththeflow 😂

Are you coming back to brave it answer ANY of the questions??

No one likes a moocher OP.

@Ladylearningtogowiththeflow are you the visitor or the Airbnb owner and who invited who?