I’ve been separated from my child’s father for 18 months now, we live separately and the time with our child is spilt between the both of us.
There is no court order or custody arrangement in place, currently.
My Childs father is due to take our child on a UK holiday for 14 nights at the start of the school summer holidays. This holiday was booked last year without my knowledge and no “consent” has been sought from myself (Childs mother) in relation to this upcoming holiday. I found out about the holiday through friends months after it was booked. Our child is aware of the holiday and excited. As much as the thought of spending this amount of time away from my child causes me distress, she’ll have a wonderful time.
My child’s father asked me the other day if I intended on taking our child away at all during the school holidays, I said I wished to but hadn’t confirmed anything as of yet due to money. I went onto inform him that I’d been offered the opportunity of potentially staying at a holiday home of someone I know, with my only expense needing to be flights and food for the duration of the stay. I wouldn’t be able to confirm anything though until closer to the time, as I’m waiting on dates for if the property is available, if at all. There’s the possibility that should the property be available, whose home it is would also be using the property at the same time. It’s large, has 5 en-suite bedrooms with a shared kitchen, outdoor area and pool. I’d in theory be holidaying with people I consider friends and “renting the room”.
He doesn’t like the people I would possibly be holidaying with and therefore his immediate answer was no. He will not allow me to take our child away if our child will be in the company of these people because “he doesn’t like them” .. he’s gone as far to say that if they’ll be in the country at the same time as myself and our child that the answer is again, still no.
Can anyone advise me on where this leaves me please?
Am I not going to be able to travel away with my child because he doesn’t like the company I may or may be in?
Does he really have the right to tell me no if I and the people around me pose absolutely no risk to my child?
Im really struggling to grasp if in fact im in the wrong for considering taking this person up on their offer or if my child’s father is being unreasonable?
Has anyone experienced anything similar and still managed to give their child a holiday despite the other parent being displeased?
Any advice would be appreciated,
Thank you