Will try to keep this short as there is a lot to this!
I am divorced from my daughters biological dad. Had a non mol against him as he was not a very nice person. My daughter hasn't seen him since she was 1.
Since then, we have moved on and my partner has taken my daughter on as his own. She thinks he is her Dad and for now - that's how I want it to stay. No need for her to know any different at the young age of 6.
Before the non-mol ended, he was arrested for crimes against a minor - I won't go into detail but he has since come out of prison and on probation plus certain types of registers. Feel utterly disgusted to have been linked to such a man.
I want to change our surnames to my partners surname but when I contacted the probation about seeing if he would give permission - he wanted to know what it was being changed to which I don't feel comfortable to disclose with him and just feels like another form on control. I wanted to then do a specific court order but was advised that I'd probably be best to do a prohibited steps order.
I filled out the court forms to do this but my current partner isn't really showing much in the way of support as he hates any drama and doesn't want to see me stressed through court. My problem is, we are planning our first family holiday abroad. I managed to get her passport ok without needing my ex for any paperwork. We are looking at going to Tenerife, but I am absolutely terrified we will get there and they will want to see proof that her biological father has given permission for her to go on holiday.
Feel like I'm in such a difficult situation. All I want to do is give my daughter the best memories and take her away but this man still has a hold on us because of parental rights. I really don't understand how a man like him has things in place that protect all children from him apart from my own.
Has anyone been to Tenerife and asked for a letter to show permission?
Me and my daughter have the same surname still.