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Teen holiday

43 replies

Scoobydo63 · 20/04/2024 08:08

Hi , my dd would like to go on holiday with a few friends she’s just turned 19 they are thinking france with a hotel stay
Im looking for recommendations on which part of france with a nice beach please

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Rocknrollstar · 20/04/2024 08:17

Perhaps you should be encouraging the girls to do some research for themselves?

Gobimanchurian · 20/04/2024 08:59

Rocknrollstar · 20/04/2024 08:17

Perhaps you should be encouraging the girls to do some research for themselves?

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InAMillion · 20/04/2024 09:02

Yes OP why are you inserting yourself into their holiday plans their adults now

InAMillion · 20/04/2024 09:02

They're

Devongoddess · 20/04/2024 09:05

As pp have alluded to its pointless anyone suggesting anything as we have no ideas what these 19 year old women want or if they even want advice!

Librarybooker · 20/04/2024 09:05

Gracious, even an innocuous little question starts some people off on one 😔 Poor OP only making conversation/asking ‘any thoughts?’

cansu · 20/04/2024 09:07

France is tricky as you often need a car or the flights are awkward. She would find it easier to go to Spain, Portugal or Greece. Surely a 19 year old can research it herself.

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 20/04/2024 09:10

They definitely need to figure out what it is they're wanting. When I was 19 my mum couldn't have chosen my holiday for me.

Budget? Classy? Party?

Is there a reason they've chosen France? It wouldn't have been my first choice for a beach holiday, personally. Especially not at 19.

InAMillion · 20/04/2024 09:26

My DD is only 16 nearly 17 and already plans what holidays they want to go on with her friends

France is where they go now to stay at grandparents very boring holiday villas bought cheaply decades ago

I imagine they'll end up in Spain or Greece or inter-railing.

Possibly Asia if they have a gap year and carry on working their PT jobs.

Quitelikeacatslife · 20/04/2024 09:28

InAMillion · 20/04/2024 09:26

My DD is only 16 nearly 17 and already plans what holidays they want to go on with her friends

France is where they go now to stay at grandparents very boring holiday villas bought cheaply decades ago

I imagine they'll end up in Spain or Greece or inter-railing.

Possibly Asia if they have a gap year and carry on working their PT jobs.

Wow write off a whole country!

lavenderlou · 20/04/2024 09:28

For France, the Cote d'Azur has a good train line that runs between the coastal resorts. Could fly to Nice.

lavenderlou · 20/04/2024 09:30

Also, can't see why it's an issue for a 19 year old inexperienced traveller to seek advice from a parent. MN is so weird about very young adults.

HavfrueDenizKisi · 20/04/2024 09:31

Yes I'd suggest fly to Nice or even Marseille and use that coast. Easiest for train travel and plenty of good beaches. Downside for 19 yr olds though will be the cost of everything as the south of France is not cheap.

Scoobydo63 · 20/04/2024 09:52

Librarybooker · 20/04/2024 09:05

Gracious, even an innocuous little question starts some people off on one 😔 Poor OP only making conversation/asking ‘any thoughts?’

isnt this forum for ideas and advice, I’m just wondering where other teens go
I think a lot of people on here are on here to go off on one . My dd is undecided and as a mum I’m trying to help

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Scoobydo63 · 20/04/2024 09:55

Thankyou to those of you that have replied with helpful advice 🙂

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Longma · 20/04/2024 10:14

It's fine to help, especially if your dd and her friends have requested suggestions. In our family we all chat about holiday destinations a lot and regularly make suggestions - it's normal for us.

The starting point needs to be travel.
How will they get there?
If flying - which flights go from your more local or most accessible airports? Where do they fly to? How much?

We use skyscanner as our starting point, you can select whole country rather than just a specific destination. This then gives you a rough idea of possibilities to investigate further. You can also play around with dates - flying during the week is usually cheaper than flying at a weekend, for example.

Also check arrival times - will public transport be up and running if it's a very early or very late flight, etc.

Then look at how easy it is to get from the destination airport to the main town/resort and the costs involved, esp if they are using public transport.

Next: what is there to do and what accommodation is available within their budgets.

Dd's first holiday with friends was France. They actually went to a fairly small town. But as they were all friends together the destination wasn't a massive thing for them - they just wanted to hang out together, go to local bars, go to the beach, have fun.

Dd definitely wouldn't rule out a whole county simply because she's been to one part before and didn't necessarily have the best time. She's also the type to make her own fun from wherever she is anyway - even easier when your with your mates,

Longma · 20/04/2024 10:16

lavenderlou · 20/04/2024 09:30

Also, can't see why it's an issue for a 19 year old inexperienced traveller to seek advice from a parent. MN is so weird about very young adults.

I also find it strange as to me it's very natural for us, as a family, to chat about all sorts of things and support/help one another and make suggestions. But I think some people appear to lead very separate lives to their teenager and young adult children. 🤷

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 20/04/2024 11:46

It's fine to help, but at 19 my mum's suggestions would've been way off the mark for what I wanted, either in terms of adventure or nightlife so I would've and did do my own research. But she's not well travelled so isn't much of an oracle on the travel front.

You've not said what sort of vibe they're after, budget or why France.

I tend to think of French coastal as more adult. There are many other easier and probably cheaper destinations depending on what they want to do.

Comedycook · 20/04/2024 11:48

It really depends on what kind of holiday they want. Culture, beach, nightclubs? Do they want to explore or stay in one place?

FrenchandSaunders · 20/04/2024 11:51

Some typical mumsnet responses …. don’t you realise OP that you have to completely disassociate yourself from your child once they turn 18.

FrenchandSaunders · 20/04/2024 11:52

Either that or a response along the lines of “my 10 year old back packed around Asia for a month with no input from me”

samarrange · 20/04/2024 12:32

I assume that if you're at the searching-for-a-place stage, you've already gone through the Plan B stuff, such as "Is there anyone in the party with fluent French?", "Do they know what to do if their plane is cancelled?", "Is there a plan in place in case someone gets ill/is mugged/loses their passport?".

You might not be able to get as far as discussing "What happens when one of the group cops off with a boy/storms off after a row?" (both of which happened on trips that our DCs took at a similar age, with substantial consequences) or "Are all of your friends equally good at contributing to the kitty", but at least the logistical issues need to be thought about. A prepaid debit card with £1000 on it for emergency use only might be an idea, if you can front that amount and trust DD not to spend it on cocktails.

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Scoobydo63 · 20/04/2024 12:49

I asked a simple question and most of the responses have been very unhelpful and judging going completely away from what I asked

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