How many times a year is reasonable to go on holiday?

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Following on from listening in to an amusing conversation between dd and her boyfriend.

Dd thinks that every day of annual leave should be spent travelling somewhere or doing something. Being at home for it is a waste. Her boyfriend thinks you only need to go abroad on a holiday once a year.

Dd argues that the reason she works hard and earns a high salary is so that she can travel to pretty much where ever and whenever she wants. In her mind 3 weeks abroad, 1 week in the UK, and 1 week for things like Christmas/Easter is an ideal combo.

I suspect this relationship won't last! Someone who loves to travel vs. someone who thinks once a year is plenty = a life of disharmony.

I'd be in the camp of, you don't need to go away at all, but once a year is lovely if you can :)

I agree with your DD, she works hard and wants to see the world. Whats the point in staring at the same 4 walls. I would guess the relationship with the boyfriend doesnt last long!

Neither is right or wrong; just a mismatch of preferences.

I used to go abroad for Easter, summer and in the 3 half terms. I've cut out the half term short breaks because I felt guilty about my carbon footprint but am too selfish to give up my Easter and summer holidays as well.

We can't afford to go away more than once a year but if we could then I would.

There’s no right answer, go away as much as you want and can. They don’t sound compatible long term.

When I'm off work I'm abroad!

There's no right or wrong.

I've definitely been your DD, I'm currently the boyfriend. I really like being at home and taking time to do small leisure activities I don't normally get a chance to.

I'm with your DD on this one. Totally reasonable to want to travel a lot and sounds like she can afford to do so.

OH my son and partner take short trips 3 or four nights. They've been to Rome, Krakow and Porto in the last year. They're not on high salaries post university but find bargains and go.

Do it before marriage and children come along.

Either is absolutely fine. But if they’re not in agreement the relationship may not be. Unless she travels with friends instead.

Lots of trips away is fine if you can afford to and have the leave. Not going away at all is fine if that’s what you prefer.

Same here. Will have 4 holidays this year if you include a long weekend.

I'm absolutely with your dd in terms of wanting to travel as much as possible. However, with climate change, I don't think it's responsible to be hopping on a plane too frequently, so we restrict our travels now.

I suspect part of the reason that her boyfriend doesn't like travelling as much as her is that he prefers 'luxury' and likes to fly business class, whereas she is quite happy to hop on a low cost carrier and stay in 2-3* guest houses so long as she gets to be away somewhere new.

Same as a pp, we used to go abroad 6 times a year but we mostly go in the uk now due to our dog and carbon footprint.

Before my cancer diagnosis I was on holiday whenever I was off work. I’m going through chemo at the moment and miss travelling so much.

Please encourage your daughter not to change.

They sound very like me and my ex when we were young. He got his way and I now regret the trips I didn’t take because instead of 3 cheaper trips I let him have his way with 1 luxury trip.

As many as you want/can afford. No right or wrong answer, I guess, but only once a year does sound a bit miserable.

I get loads of holidays (tto) but I spend about 5 weeks of it abroad. All my dh holidays (except for a few days around Xmas) are spent on holidays.

I agree with DD. My DD2 is the same and currently in Las Vegas. luckily her boyfriend is of the same mindset.

It depends on finances and how much spare time you get around your working hours.
When I was young and skint I couldn’t afford to pay other people to do things like decorating so would often use a weeks leave on projects. We bought a house that needed lots of work and did it that way.
If she has the funds to afford the holidays, and doesn’t need to use leave for practical things, why not do use it to travel. This assumes she owns her own home and mortgage is comfortable.
As others have said, they may not be compatible though, they would both have to compromise heavily to travel together.

I’m going abroad 8 times this year, my trips vary from three nights in Europe to three weeks in Asia. Last year I went abroad 7 times and had two holidays in the UK too.

I don’t think a relationship would work if I was with someone who wasn’t into holidays. I do know couples who are mismatched in this area and it does cause friction.

Totally with your dd.. if she can afford it why not? We're on our 3rd holiday this year.. just makes life more interesting.

Same - I travel a lot and really can’t imagine staying at home.
I hope your treatment goes well and you can begin travelling again soon!

Thank you, that’s very kind.