Why am I always booking / looking to book a holiday?

[amby23]

It seems like I just work so I can book holidays for me and my boyfriend. I just feel like the best version of myself abroad. We got back from Belize 3 weeks ago and now I’m looking again. We’ve already been to Mauritius & south France & luxury highlands in the last 2 years (we’ve only been together for 2 years today) and my cousin said ‘you’re always on holiday’ and every time I tell my boyfriend I’ve booked one he’s like ‘really?????’

But every-time we go on one he really enjoys it. Now I’m looking at St Vincent & Grenadines for next February and I’m justifying it to myself by saying ‘ it’s a long time away’.

My boyfriend is starting his own business this month and he’s told me that things will be tighter / I may need to help so I really need to reign the holiday bookings in. But Feb is a long time away but also I just know I’ll want to do a quick trip to Greece in September.

When we went to Belize we both went on about how we should just move there because it’s so laid back and so much cheaper and we loved the jungle. My boyfriend thought so too and I thought we were serious but I guess everyone says that on holiday.

I just feel so depressed in England, especially in the winter months.

How can I learn to embrace England more?

NB I always seem to roll over 5 days annual leave so I’m not on holiday that much but part of me thinks I should start saving for a wedding / children etc

I argue less on holiday, I eat properly on holiday, I’m anxious less. Is the answer to just move abroad somewhere tropical? Maybe I should become a teacher and work abroad?

I’m the same. It’s an (expensive) addiction! I’m over 50 and still addicted - really need to save and put more into my pension but I can’t stop. 😯

Sounds like you should move to Belize!

My partner and I travel well. Usually 4-6 trips a year. We are both self employed so we don’t have to worry about holiday entitlement from an employer. We work extremely hard and it affords us nice things. We always get ‘you away again’ comments. I can’t say I care for them but it won’t stop me enjoying my life. We have been together 12 years and we have an account that we pay into every week and that’s our travel fund. So if we see a good deal then we have already put money aside to cover it. Having said all that, if my partner came to me and said circumstances have changed and things will be tighter then I’d absolutely respect and support that

oh yes of course I’ll respect that change but what you’ve said is rather reassuring especially the fact you’re both self employed. Everyone’s been telling me that I’ll have to reign the holidays in when my so is self employed because of appointments & commitments that could be booked months in advance but I actually think it’ll be much more flexible and I’ve even offered to be in charge of his diary ;)

I suppose for a short while we can’t just jet off at short notice

Why do you feel the need to ‘embrace England more’?

The answer is to keep doing what makes you happy and fulfilled, whatever that is, as long as you’re not getting into financial difficulties.
This life doesn’t give you a lot so you need to take as much as you can from it.
And half the fun is in the planning and anticipation.

Travel as much as you can before you can’t.

Since January I’ve been to Canada, skiing twice in Switzerland and on three European city, albeit, weekend breaks.
Those were after a trip to Bahamas in December.

In a few weeks I’m off to Japan.

Everyone says the same thing to me - you’re always away, don’t you work, etc etc.

I just smile and book my next flight.

@amby23 i suppose it would depend on the nature of the business. The first few years for us both we barely had a day off while we building up our client list. We also have 2 completely different jobs, we don’t work with each other. I’d never have someone take care of my work diary. That’s a non negotiable for me. We simply say, you free on XXXX? If so we keep the dates free and see what works for us.