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Family holiday squabble

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Empath7 · 15/12/2023 04:09

My brother in law booked a UK holiday which we have paid into, with my kids and my partners grandparents. We've had a bit of a fall out a week before the holiday and he has said we either buy him out of the holiday or they buy us out. Now, I'd go on the holiday no matter what because of my kids, they desperately want to go and it wouldn't bother me that we've fallen out. But he's controlling the situation and basically just saying they are the only options. I definitely can't afford to buy him out which he knows, so the only option he is giving me is no holiday (the money I got back wouldn't cover a separate holiday). My question is, do I have any say about this? I don't have contact details to be able to get into the holiday house. The brother in law has all the info so I can't get in unless he gives us the key code. We want to go on holiday but now can't.

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Rafting2022 · 15/12/2023 04:32

What was the fall out about and is it likely to be something he can move past when he’s calmed down?

Billybagpuss · 15/12/2023 05:34

i take you were due to be going away for Christmas? I’d apologise to the kids, let him buy you out and have the sort of Christmas many people dream about, your own family, no obligation, lunch in your pjs. Then spend the holiday money either towards something good in the summer or let the kids and you have money you wouldn’t normally have and do some special things together over Christmas.

SD1978 · 15/12/2023 05:42

Will they even refund if it's close to the holiday?

Billybagpuss · 15/12/2023 05:45

SD1978 · 15/12/2023 05:42

Will they even refund if it's close to the holiday?

They’re not after a refund from the company. The fil wants to buy them out so they don’t join the family

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Empath7 · 15/12/2023 08:26

It's an ongoing issue between my partner and my bro in law. It's always been tense, but now my bro in law has a new wife and he doesn't want us telling her any info that she's not allowed to know (he's been naughty ), so he's scared we're going to say something by accident especially if my partner has a drink as he has loose lips.

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Empath7 · 15/12/2023 08:30

Yes, this does sound like a good option. Yes it was over Christmas the holiday. The kids were really looking forward to it. Just didn't know if as I'd paid into it legally I have some kind of say. We've just been told that's what's happening, because he's the one who booked it. Frustrating. Thanks for your reply.

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Ellmau · 15/12/2023 08:33

What do the grandparents say/think?

And depending on what the secret is, maybe you should be telling the new wife anyway, holiday or no holiday? It's not fair to keep some secrets.

Mischance · 15/12/2023 08:38

Well I guess BIL hasn't got his head screwed on - you are more likely to "tell all" after he has pissed on your chips over the holiday!

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Empath7 · 15/12/2023 10:44

The grandparents don't know anything, they don't even know we've been given this ultimatum yet. It's just so frustrating were being forced into this situation.

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Empath7 · 15/12/2023 10:46

I know! If s**t hits the fan I'm not holding back. But my partner works for his brother, his brother is the Director of the company, so it's a really complicated set up and I could make it worse for my partner if I go too far.

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Billybagpuss · 15/12/2023 14:12

Empath7 · 15/12/2023 10:46

I know! If s**t hits the fan I'm not holding back. But my partner works for his brother, his brother is the Director of the company, so it's a really complicated set up and I could make it worse for my partner if I go too far.

So you could jeopardise your financial stability, stepping back sounds like a good plan, I’d also suggest DP starts job hunting in the new year.

AMuser · 15/12/2023 14:15

You could ask him to over compensate you to step back - so that you could book something else on such short notice.

my naughty- do you mean cheated in his first marriage?

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Empath7 · 15/12/2023 15:54

It's been whilst they were engaged, yes cheating.

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