In need of desperate advice

[IDGAF97]

Good afternoon all I am trying to take my child on holiday but I have a few issues and wondering if you could help shine a light for me I'm not very good with this sort of thing so me and sons father aren't together and I have a restraining order in place against him I'm also 200+ miles away from him and have had no contact in 3 years nor would I know where to start but everything I've found online says I need to ask for fathers permission to take son on holiday? My son doesn't have my last name he has his biological father's will this be an issue? The restraining order is for me not for my son if that makes any difference. Surely there's got to be away around it for those who suffered from DV last thing I'd want is for him to even know where we are. Can anyone help me please thank you all 🙏

AFAIK yes, you would need his written permission to take your DS out of the country and if you have different last names you can expect to be asked about this at immigration. Carrying a copy of his birth certificate would show that you are his birth mother. As for the DV issue/restraining order I think I'd call 101 and ask the police for advice. You can't be the first/only parent who's encountered this issue.

That's what I thought too thank you so much

OP - as long as your name is on the birth certificate and you take it with you when you travel, it won't be an issue. I have never ever been asked to produce evidence of permission from the father (I'm also no contact with him).

Officially you are supposed to carry a letter from him giving permission,

In practice most letters these days come out if a printer and the immigration officer is going to have no clue what your ex's signature looks like.

Just saying.

I've been travelling with my kid for 13 years and no one ever asked to show evidence of permission from the father (I have been asked to show the birth certificate a few times).

Do you and your child have a different surename? Thank you!! Xx

Beautiful thank you ❤️

You can get a letter from the courts as an alternative. I was asked entering Canada

Thank you so much do you all have the same last name? Xx

I don't- that's why I was asked for the birth certificate a few times

This has really helped thank you so much I'm a nervous person as it is so just didn't want anything to happen thank you x

You are allowed to take them out of the country for 30 days a year with no permission needed. They may ask for a birth certificate. But that’s extreme.